Exhausted after an afternoon of crying and yelling from difficult child. Had a big project due at school for a special evening open house. She was having major anxiety about the project for weeks now. I eventually picked up her project to bring to the car and she smacked it out of my hand where it separated into 3 pieces on the floor. The project was fine, it could easily be put back but she was hysterical and the open house was now starting. At her insistence we drove to the school, she found her teacher, who could see that she had been crying, and with me pantomining over her head, he said well bring in the pieces and we will see what we can do. So we went back home and got the pieces and she set it up and a friend helped her put on her costume and she was fine. But told me she needed me to stay the whole time. H was home this whole time. He took easy child 2 upstairs while the crying and hysteria was going on. I am totally fried. The recent recommendation from the neuropsychologist was family therapy to help rebalance the power in our family and to try to engage difficult child in the therapy process. Medication was also recommended if we could get difficult child to take it. H does not want to go to family therapy and does not want to medicate. He says that she is improving and so we should do nothing. How many hours a day does difficult child need to be hysterical for him to think there is a problem? How many activities that are supposed to be fun for kids need to be traumatic events before he thinks we need to do something. How many professionals need to tell us that difficult child needs help. Why doesn't he want to help her? I will make sure that she gets the help she needs despite any roadblock that he (or difficult child) puts in front of me but at some point I will not be able to forgive him for not being there when she needed him.