Help me find some rhyme and reason to this. It's something that has always bothered me. I get that uneven performance profiles are typical for special needs kids. And my son is that even though no one has ever been able to pinpoint what exactly is wrong in his hard wiring. difficult child certainly has social skill defects. He isn't likeable and he has hard time making and keeping friends. He is obvious to certain social cues. He doesn't always notice when something he does annoys others and he may interpret someone's polite friendliness as more than it is and has embarrassed himself often with that. He isn't good at thinking how his actions influence others. One very typical example would be not using headphones when using laptop (while looking something that keeps noise) in full bus there some even try to sleep. These type of things I see very typical Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) issues. But there is another side. In some ways he is in fact very tuned to other people feelings. He has always been our family's atmosphere barometer. If I and husband had a row, even if he was somewhere else, the moment he got home you could bet he would start to squeak. He understands well some rather complex social and feeling nets in our extended family. Same with his teams and at school. He always seemed to know how other people's relationship games were going. At times it seems that he is anything but obvious as long as he isn't a participant. He often surprises me with very astute assessment of people, their feelings and relationships. He also does surprisingly well in public. If you would hear the interviews he gives and things like that, you would never think he has social skills issues. He knows right things to say better than many. Same with for example social media. When he started his Twitter account I certainly shuddered. So did husband, difficult child's agent and his then positional coach. Okay, we probably all had a long talk with him about the rules with that and also his team has quite clear rules. But in reality he does great with it. Better than most of his team mates even. He is appropriate, positive, says the right things, never lets his frustration show, understands well difference between the critique he shouldn't give in that forum and on the other hand that kind of whining that is appropriate (in other words, no criticizing his team mates, coaches, team in public, but it is okay to whine, if someone stole his parking space or train is late) etc. There has been only one screw up and that wasn't bad. It was, again, that he overintepreted someone's politeness to be a sign of wishing for a closer contact (i.e. he tried to make a friend and keep contact with the person who had just been polite to him.) And at times he can even be quite clever with it. Which is that made me think about this topic once again. He has lately been doing little better in his sport after awful fall and recently he had a great game. He was a best player in field. And he managed to comment that in Twitter very cleverly so that he didn't mention his own performance at all, but just thanked audience and congratulated his team mates for great effort. But he did it so, that he managed to sneak in the information that makes everyone who knows his sport to notice that he did great. Small thing of course, but made me again wonder, how he can be so oblivious with some social things and so very savvy with others. Is it that when he is outsider and has time to think, he gets it, but when he is in it, he doesn't understand himself as a part of the picture? I really don't know.