Big brother of easy child's long time team mate committed suicide last weekend. I don't know family too well, but husband does and their youngest really played almost a decade with easy child and husband was a long time assistant coach and service manager to them. easy child told us about it today and is rather rattled on how it reflects to our own family. This kid was in his mid twenties. From outside he always looked like high achieving super-easy child, very well liked by everyone, funny and loving guy who used to be awesome musician and was middle of his studies in medication school. When our difficult child's troubles hit the rumour mill the dad of the family did however share about their oldest's struggles with gambling addiction. They also pointed us to some good sources of support and we much appreciated that. Their son never agreed to more intensive programs we forced our kid in, but he did attend regularly to Gamblers Anonymous and had better and worse times, even periods of several months of not gambling. In fact he had lied to everyone that he was currently 9 months sober. He did get himself to serious financial trouble once before but with help of his parents he had a plan to get out of them. Now he wasn't able to take out loans etc. because black marks in his credit history so it seems that he had financed his gambling by first loaning and sometimes stealing from friends and in the end by stealing regulated drugs from hospital he was doing his first internship related to his studies and selling them. He was confronted by his boss and told that police report would be made. That would have meant end of his medical career before it even had began. And of course whole web of lies he had made coming out. Instead of facing the music he committed suicide right after graduation party of his younger sister. I can't even fathom what his parents are feeling. Such an utter devastation. I feel so bad for them and to be honest, dread even writing a condolence letter. I have absolutely no words. And I think this may be the first time it hit to easy child how serious his brother's situation might be. And I have to admit that again it makes me wonder, that when super kids like this boy can't seem to beat this beast, does my screw up whelp have even a snowball's chance? My only hope seems to be my boy's incredible stubbornness. I keep praying that would be enough. I'm sure this family could also use prayers in their time of utmost grief.