meowbunny
New Member
Vicki, I wasn't trying to criticize. I do understand your anger and frustration. I just wanted you to be sure that you're not reacting to things out of anger. No matter how good the reasons, she is still a little girl who is hurting. Your posts of late have truly shown so much anger. Anger at Aly. Anger at husband. This was the first time in a long time that you've mentioned how much you truly love her. It was good to see it.
I'm glad to hear that you tell Aly how much you love her on a frequent basis. That hasn't been coming across in recent posts and it had me worried.
I know there were times when I truly did not like my daughter and, sadly, I treated her accordingly. I didn't mean to but it was in my face, my body language, my words. Some of it I couldn't help, some of it I could have stopped had someone pointed out to me how much I was hurting the person I loved most in this world. That was what I was trying to do. It is too easy to get lost in our pain and frustration and forget to see where we are hurting others. It is not done out of meanness, but out of a lack of awareness. At least that was the case with me. I would tell my daughter I loved her but I forgot to show her that I loved her. There was little laughter, little of the things that made our relationship special. As I said, I wish someone had told me the message I was inadvertantly giving my child. That's what I was trying to do with you.
I'm glad to hear that you tell Aly how much you love her on a frequent basis. That hasn't been coming across in recent posts and it had me worried.
I know there were times when I truly did not like my daughter and, sadly, I treated her accordingly. I didn't mean to but it was in my face, my body language, my words. Some of it I couldn't help, some of it I could have stopped had someone pointed out to me how much I was hurting the person I loved most in this world. That was what I was trying to do. It is too easy to get lost in our pain and frustration and forget to see where we are hurting others. It is not done out of meanness, but out of a lack of awareness. At least that was the case with me. I would tell my daughter I loved her but I forgot to show her that I loved her. There was little laughter, little of the things that made our relationship special. As I said, I wish someone had told me the message I was inadvertantly giving my child. That's what I was trying to do with you.