they have a ways to go but get this, (kind of makes you wanna scream for those who dont get this respect) My nephew J has gone from standard test scores int he 90th %ile down to the 40th-50th. He is not getting work done, not turning work that IS done in, etc...you know the story. So, I shared with her the standard request for sp. ed assessment and she wrote it word for word. She included the info from my law advocate. within a week they called for an assessment planning meeting. They had that today. The sp ed teacher has been in the math class J is in and she said she has noticed him a lot and he can really seem oppositional because he is so lost. The psychiatric has a daughter in 10th grade with adhd and they both told her this is the time to catch them and that an IEP is much better than a 504 plan so they will really do a lot of testing to try to qualify him. They told her if he can have a case manager then they can make sure the teachers comply with the accommodations. My brilliant niece told her mom to have J take his medications at school and sure enough he is already doing better. He was pitching them in the trash. Now he goes to the nurse and she sees him take them and no problems. He doesn't care at all either. (well he complains that people dont think he is as funny on them, sigh) The nurse was in on the meeting and totally agreed he needs help. She said she works at the high school he goes to as well so she will be able to follow him and monitor. I am so proud of her and this really is the kind of experience I am used to working in. People who want to help. People who really do care. They want him to get help before high school, they dont want that gap to widen too much. Less chance for him to give up (he is at that point now and he fights with my sister all the time, dad is adhd too and they are divorced, he rarely supports homework I am sure you can imagine but he supports anything my sister tries to do for him, medications testing etc.... he goes along with ti and is nice about it, just no clue when it comes to organizing it himself. I told her she got a warrior mom stripe. Now to hope he qualifies. She said she went in so defensive but wanted everyone to know she is SURE she got such a rapid response because her letter meant business, respectful but obviously she knew what she was talking about. I'm proud of my little sis.