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I am going to describe how manster gets at times and ask for help determining where it stems from. Is it likely from the spectrum? I believe it would be construed as emotional lability or some such term.
We had a house full of people. Ones that he enjoys having over, is very comfortable with, etc. I'm not sure what started it but he had a series of pouting sessions. One time one of the adults told the kids (3 tween/teen boys who were very loud and routy, a normal response) to go downstairs and he was pouting that M was mean, why was he so mean, etc. Was up in his room crying. These last anywhere from 5-15 minutes and he usually goes back in but nights last night is just one after another. His friend J and he were fighting about who got to go first in a game we were playing. I had them flip a coin, manster lost, exit stage right. I went up to check on him and he was crying and upset that J beats him at EVERYTHING, when will he ever be the winner. There were several more incidents but I think you get the jist? They always seem to surround him not feeling loved enough or that he is the victim (persecution complex).
I think I'm doing a fairly good job of not giving it too much attention but I'm not ignoring it comletely. If I did he would melt down that I didn't care. Then again nothing works when he is like this.
I just wish I understood this better and how to support without enabling these behaviors. When he gets like this his emotions are all over the place and he truly believes his stories. Anyone else's difficult children go through this? How do you handle it?
Thanks,
We had a house full of people. Ones that he enjoys having over, is very comfortable with, etc. I'm not sure what started it but he had a series of pouting sessions. One time one of the adults told the kids (3 tween/teen boys who were very loud and routy, a normal response) to go downstairs and he was pouting that M was mean, why was he so mean, etc. Was up in his room crying. These last anywhere from 5-15 minutes and he usually goes back in but nights last night is just one after another. His friend J and he were fighting about who got to go first in a game we were playing. I had them flip a coin, manster lost, exit stage right. I went up to check on him and he was crying and upset that J beats him at EVERYTHING, when will he ever be the winner. There were several more incidents but I think you get the jist? They always seem to surround him not feeling loved enough or that he is the victim (persecution complex).
I think I'm doing a fairly good job of not giving it too much attention but I'm not ignoring it comletely. If I did he would melt down that I didn't care. Then again nothing works when he is like this.
I just wish I understood this better and how to support without enabling these behaviors. When he gets like this his emotions are all over the place and he truly believes his stories. Anyone else's difficult children go through this? How do you handle it?
Thanks,