Hi all, For newcomers and those who don't remember my story, my story is similar to yours. 23 year old son college drop out, marijuana addict, jail bird(lol) i don't know why i found that funny but it is true of son because he has been in jail three times for violations of probation. The last time he left jail was July 14th last year after spending 5 months incarcerated for testing positive for marijuana. But for him to be released, the judge gave him a deal of going to rehab and once he finished his probation would be terminated. So i forked out some serious cash and paid for him to enter rehab that his lawyer highly recommended and drove him there the same day he left court in a state two hours away from where i live. He stayed there three months, 2 recovering and the third was offered a peer leadership role whereby i didn't have to pay, which was a blessing and son would have stayed longer than that but he violated their rules by speaking on the phone with a female who had left the rehab earlier, so the facility couldn't tolerate that so he had to move along. The found a sober living for him in another town were they usually refer the majority of people coming through their facility and son was looking forward to moving there and really excited to continue his journey. So in mid October he moved into sober living about two and a half hours from home. He got a sponsor, found a job, went to meetings, and was doing great. Throughout this period, i helped out some because his pay check was not enough and the sober living was a little bit pricey, so i thought i was doing the right thing.