difficult child has been doing home school and is fairly ahead of schedule. his 1st booklet for 2nd semester English resulted in 3 failed tests and his having to do the book over. he is finished with it and is convinced he will fail the test again. as of last night, he was to go to the testing/tutoring center this morning to tutor and then take the test. they and i have repeatedly told him, if he fails a test to wait to see ms. lisa, who can look and see what he might be needing - sometimes they will allow him to correct his answers but he will never stick around for this after he fails a test as he gets angry when he fails. this morning he grumpily (extreme) got up and said he wasn't going because he will fail it anyway and the tutor wouldn't teach him anything-he she would just give him the answers. i told him fine, but i am only trying to help. this escalated and he was disrespectful-imagine that-and mad at me! when i spoke to husband this morning, i mentioned this to him and he exploded and hollered at me (something i don't respond well to) and said he didn't want to hear about him again. well, the kid is mine, not his, has been my life since he was born and he lives in our home. this is gonna be rather difficult for me not to speak of my son. i include husband on difficult child stuff as he is the only true dad my son has ever had, not to mention i need his support. also because he is really good at getting thru to difficult child when he is butting heads with me. i went home for lunch and husband isn't speaking to me. ok, i am the injured party here-he has no children, his mom is a big part of our lives. i love her dearly but she sometimes gets on my nerves and i would never act that way about her even if she were a major thorn in my side, which she is not. i am just upset that he expects me to exclude difficult child from our conversations because that is a habit i really am not sure i can break. we are going on 5 years of marriage and he knew about all the difficult child-ness going in and i am sick of everytime he gets mad at difficult child, him wanting to shut him and anything to do with him, out of his life. I am just whining i guess and i know it will work out-it always does. husband is a good man and nobody understands his frustration and anger more than me but geeze-i need some support and maybe a hug here. we almost have the boy graduated which wil be a big hurdle accomplished. if you made it this far, thanks for reading.