We've had contracts about expectations and house rules and she continues to be messy (dishes, pop cans in room/car...clothes everywhere) and messy bathroom. It may sound picky but these are all MY property and I expect her to respect and take care of things. The consequence of NOT doing that has resulted in her losing her car privledges (since I own that too). That creates a problem for her in getting to work and college, but it's the only real leverage I have right now, since I cant ground her like I did when she was younger. I could giver her an ultimatum that she would also lose her housing (living here) privledges and then she would have an even bigger problem with expenses and she doesn't necessarily get to take the car because I'm not going to just give it to her she would have to buy it....thus see my related thread " Suggestions for 20 yr old....." I really want her to succeed and be reasonable about costs , but I want her to move out if she cant honor my requests/rules.