Hello, I'm new to this site and like many of the posts I've read I am dealing with behavioral issues with my son that have me close to my wits end. My son is 3 yrs 9 mo and has a 6 mo old baby sister. He has always had a strong willed, independent personality and each year or even 6 months seems to have a different type of battle. His biggest issue is that he is defiant (mostly at school now or with people other than me since I've got a good handle on it), a negotiator, controlling, aggressive and does not share or play well with other children. He is in a Christian Mother's Day Out program 3 days a week from 9-2 and is doing well except for the above areas. He has always been quick to learn, great motor skills, early crawler/walker, early vocabulary, talks in full sentences, seems to understand a lot. He doesn't have a problem with touch, very loving to everyone. Is everyone's best friend and wants so badly to play with us or other kids but wants to be in control of everything. Any toy a child has he wants to play with then and will be physical to get it. He has hit, pushed, kicked, thrown a small car, etc to be in control of what he wants. I dread the daily reports from his teacher because I'm so scared that he has impulsively hurt another child. He also is very noisy and will randomly make silly faces or noises to gain attention in school, like during the pledge the other day. Not tourettes, just attention getting. He also seems somewhat spiteful at times, taking the dogs ball and playing keep away for too long, things like that. I have my first visit with a child psychologist tomorrow to start a process of behavioral therapy, evaluation, etc. I've read all the signs of ADD, ADHD, ODD and he does show the impulsiveness but doesn't seem to be to the extreme of ODD. I say that because he shows empathy, doesn't want to hurt people but still does impulsive actions. Today his baby sister was on the floor and I was videotaping her because she's started crawling. He was watching a show and just came over and pushed her down from being on her hands and knees. He was immediately put in time out. This is my main form of discipline which has been most effective. I never leave him alone with her. Medicating him scares the hell out of me so I am willing to try ANYTHING else first since he is so young. Aside from the school situation I have a friend in his class come over once a week for play time to try and help on my end. This other little boy is the most patient kid ever and he is about 6 mo older and seems to still enjoy being around Adam. His mom knows what's up and is very supportive in letting her child be a help. Just curious on anyone else's thoughts, advice, opinions on how normal or severe this is and if there is a chance he will grow out of it with age and maturity. I've seen a lot of improvement but the physical social play thing is so scary to me. Will he end up being a social outcast, ahhhhh!