*Hi all,
firstly will explain our problem.
Our 6yr old son is a normal boy who is very friendly and loving and caring(loves to hug and kiss us)with everyone especially family members.He is not shy and he makes friends easily.
Since he started nursery we noticed a speech delay,and he started talking very late compared to other children.He has been going to speech therapy for a year.Apart from the speech our son is very clever and understands everything and he does quite well at school maintaining an average group level during these years.
School recommended a change for him during his nursery year (age 4)to a special needs school due to his speech which was delaying his progress...we refused after consulting with some teacher friends who just thought this change to another school was because the school did not want to have to be all the time giving our son the special attention he needed one to one.The special needs school here in Gibraltar mostly have children with mental problems,physical delays and we just thought this could be worse for him as the only delay he has is his speech.Our son did not change school and has been going to the same school since he was 3.Teachers are great and have been helping him a lot.
My wife decided to help our son as much as possible and decided to leave her full time job to help him all that she could.My wife has no qualifications and just basic school learning,but she has done incredible things with him.She reads to him,teaches him maths and has brought the best out of our son,to the point that he is doing great at school.He still has his speech delay but now he communicates easily and most of his words are understandable.I really can not thank my wife enough because she has had a lot of patience and ability to make our son into a normal boy like any other in his class,without the need of any special needs classes.
Now there is a problem that has recently escalated and it is way our son behaves and acts at home and in public.Lately,although he has been doing it for some time,he has started to answer back,hit and spit when he is angry.He also hits his sister without any reason and does not accept a "no" for an answer.
Some examples are the following:
The other day he got upset at the beach because he saw his granny had started playing cards with his sister without him so he run up and from the table tossed all the cards into the air,calling his granny "you are naughty"and spitting at her.
Another day he was told of for throwing sand to his sister (she is 10)by my wife and he would not accept being told off and threw sand to my wife and started shouting and threw himself onto the sand .My wife told him that when he got home he would be punished without pS3 and he relied by shouting and throwing sand all over my wife and everyone that was sitting at the beach table to have tea,sand going in the tea cups biscuits etc.
My wife is getting upset and does not know what we can do as the incidents that happen in public like the beach ones are very embarrassing as everyone knows each other as Gibraltar is a very small community.I have told her that he will get better as he gets older but i myself star to doubt my words.Our son is a great boy,very loving and really normal but these outbursts when he is told off are getting to be very difficult to accept at his age.
I hope some parents can give us some advise and maybe some solutions.Will this go away with time?
thank you all for reading
firstly will explain our problem.
Our 6yr old son is a normal boy who is very friendly and loving and caring(loves to hug and kiss us)with everyone especially family members.He is not shy and he makes friends easily.
Since he started nursery we noticed a speech delay,and he started talking very late compared to other children.He has been going to speech therapy for a year.Apart from the speech our son is very clever and understands everything and he does quite well at school maintaining an average group level during these years.
School recommended a change for him during his nursery year (age 4)to a special needs school due to his speech which was delaying his progress...we refused after consulting with some teacher friends who just thought this change to another school was because the school did not want to have to be all the time giving our son the special attention he needed one to one.The special needs school here in Gibraltar mostly have children with mental problems,physical delays and we just thought this could be worse for him as the only delay he has is his speech.Our son did not change school and has been going to the same school since he was 3.Teachers are great and have been helping him a lot.
My wife decided to help our son as much as possible and decided to leave her full time job to help him all that she could.My wife has no qualifications and just basic school learning,but she has done incredible things with him.She reads to him,teaches him maths and has brought the best out of our son,to the point that he is doing great at school.He still has his speech delay but now he communicates easily and most of his words are understandable.I really can not thank my wife enough because she has had a lot of patience and ability to make our son into a normal boy like any other in his class,without the need of any special needs classes.
Now there is a problem that has recently escalated and it is way our son behaves and acts at home and in public.Lately,although he has been doing it for some time,he has started to answer back,hit and spit when he is angry.He also hits his sister without any reason and does not accept a "no" for an answer.
Some examples are the following:
The other day he got upset at the beach because he saw his granny had started playing cards with his sister without him so he run up and from the table tossed all the cards into the air,calling his granny "you are naughty"and spitting at her.
Another day he was told of for throwing sand to his sister (she is 10)by my wife and he would not accept being told off and threw sand to my wife and started shouting and threw himself onto the sand .My wife told him that when he got home he would be punished without pS3 and he relied by shouting and throwing sand all over my wife and everyone that was sitting at the beach table to have tea,sand going in the tea cups biscuits etc.
My wife is getting upset and does not know what we can do as the incidents that happen in public like the beach ones are very embarrassing as everyone knows each other as Gibraltar is a very small community.I have told her that he will get better as he gets older but i myself star to doubt my words.Our son is a great boy,very loving and really normal but these outbursts when he is told off are getting to be very difficult to accept at his age.
I hope some parents can give us some advise and maybe some solutions.Will this go away with time?
thank you all for reading