Buddy asked a question in my thread about my nephew that has really gotten me thinking so I thought I'd throw something out there for anyone who dares. I already said my baby sister is a difficult child. My mom is getting to be more of a difficult child as she ages (and I'm convinced because of a sleeping medication she CAN'T sleep without). My other sister (also younger) is a mommy's easy child with some very drastic difficult child episodes occasionally. I was a easy child (did the usual "kid stuff") for the most part. I was always afraid to tick my mom off. I responded well to "emotional punishment" although none of us were safe from spanking stick, except possibly mommy's girl. My mom was quick to believe everything negative about me and baby sister but NEVER about mommy's girl (still like that). It took YEARS of therapy, inpatient tx, residential treatment (yes, as an adult), psychiatrists, tdocs, medications dealing with PTSD, crippling depression, crippling Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), you name it for me to get to where I am. One of my mom's biggest and most frequent statements to baby sis was "I hope some day you have kids just like you! Then you'll know how I feel!" She has an extremely easy child and a minor difficult child (made WORSE by overly-endulgent parenting but not caused by it). I on the other hand have 2 difficult child's. Ever since Buddy asked her question, I have been wondering how on earth it ended up this way. I vowed when I was growing up NEVER to treat my kids the way I was treated. So far I have stuck to my vow, at least mine is rare where her's was a given. It just sometimes puzzles me. I guess I think too much. Anyone relate to any of this? Please don't tell me I'm some sort of anomoly!?!