About to Tear My Hair Out

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Lillyth, May 15, 2009.

  1. Lillyth

    Lillyth New Member

    DS is driving me NUTS! This is the second time he has been suspended in the last few weeks!

    I haven't been on for a while because things were going pretty well. We got him into a High Functioning Autism class at a new school.

    But he has been blowing up lately. EVERYTHING is a fricking battle with him. That part I might even be able to take, but then he blames what he did on everyone else, like "Oh, it's YOUR fault you took away the points - I would have more points if YOU didn't keep taking them" or, "I wouldn't have pushed her if she didn't make me mad - she earned it!"

    I'm at my wits end. I even started researching voluntary foster care. Yes, my husband takes him most of the weekend, but I get him up every morning, I have to deal with his homework (which is always a chore), and I'm the one who has to deal with the school all the time.

    I just don't know what to do about his behavior. I will tell him to stop doing something, then he will stop, then do it one more time. So I take away points. At which point he blames ME for taking the points away from him.

    I'm exhausted, and really, the only way I am ever happy around him is if I am pretending.

    And I'm just sick & ****ing tired of pretending.


    Thanks for listening, guys.
  2. Heartsick

    Heartsick New Member

    I am new here also, and I can identify with your frusturation. I am at a loss as to how to help you, but should you tear your hair out I know a good wig maker. On the serious side, be thankful you have some breaks on the weekends.
  3. Lillyth

    Lillyth New Member

    Thanks. Though I really can't tear my hair out, as I am to be the Maid of Honor at a wedding next month, and I don't think the bride would like that.

    As for the breaks, I AM thankful. Very thankful. I LIVE for the weekends...
  4. Josie

    Josie Active Member

    Since I see your son is on the girlfriend/CF diet, I have to ask if you are sure he isn't eating anything he shouldn't? Even traces of something in a new food or from a restaurant.

    My 2 girls and I are all on the girlfriend/CF diet. All of us can be very irritable and/or explosive if we have even a trace of gluten and/or casein. One of my daughters is defiant and oppositional if she cheats. For me, the effects can sometimes last 2 1/2 weeks!
  5. Lillyth

    Lillyth New Member

    Thanks for asking. Actually, believe it or not, he's really good. We don't eat out, so we know he's good there, but I WILL bring it up & make sure at our Emergency IEP Tuesday morning.

    I wonder though... He *does* seem better on the weekends. Perhaps he is sneaking something?

    I think also, one of the paras just rubs him the wrong way... Yet another thing I will be bringing up at the meeting.