Hello!
I'm so glad I found this site. I was feeling terrible that I have thoughts of moving away from my child. I have tried everything I can think of.
I am a single mother because his father chose to be a serial cheater while I was pregnant which I would not tolerate. We still decided to remain friends and do our best to be there for our only child when he was born. So even though his father didn't do his part at all, I did my part.
My child has been showing signs of rebellion since kindergarten. He was being bullied in elementary school and I fought hard to put an end to it. I put him in counseling and everything. When he was 11, he assaulted another child. I went to court with him, never missed a counseling session, DHR was brought into my home and I spent over 2 years running around with him for that incident.
He started assulting me by age 15. I was in a car accident that limited my ability to walk for several months. From there he really got away. He stoIe my car and crashed it, started smoking and just literally started getting suspended from school on purpose. He's been in a behavior rehab residential center twice and sees a counselor weekly. I don't know what else to do. I've called the police on him several times for attacking me. He trashes the house, takes my things, and even locked me in my room one time. He's kicked my door in, burned a hole in the floor, snatch my keys and purse so i can't leave when he assaults me. He says that I'm overreacting and it's not that serious and that I'm just pitiful. I'm sitting here with my lip busted, bruised and in pain from him attacking me last night which went on over an hour and he took my phone. I had to a hidden phone in my bathroom and got in the shower so he couldn't hear me call the police and demanded they take him away this time. He threatened to kill me in front of them. I feel tormented in my own home. I work very hard for what I have, it's not fair that he thinks he can just trash it.
Then other people look at you like you are a crazy person for letting a child treat you this way. I have tried punishments like taking away items, he takes them back and threatens me if I touch his things, I've only spanked him maybe twice in his life when he was under 6 years old but decided that was not a way I wanted to discipline him. Some people say he acts this way because he's spoiled and I didn't spank him like I should. But I did other things like time-outs and take away toys and video games. But that didn't work after he got about 8. What was so wrong with providing for my child? That's what I busted my behind through school to do...be able to provide for him.
I pray everyday not to hate him. He's been diagnosed with ADHD, Severe depression, a defiant disorder, and has been in a state of psychosis before, but some of this is just straight rebellion. I feel so sorry for him which is why I keep tolerating so much. I can go on and on but I've put so much time in getting him help that I just realized I'm stressed the hell out and I need help.
I'm so glad I found this site. I was feeling terrible that I have thoughts of moving away from my child. I have tried everything I can think of.
I am a single mother because his father chose to be a serial cheater while I was pregnant which I would not tolerate. We still decided to remain friends and do our best to be there for our only child when he was born. So even though his father didn't do his part at all, I did my part.
My child has been showing signs of rebellion since kindergarten. He was being bullied in elementary school and I fought hard to put an end to it. I put him in counseling and everything. When he was 11, he assaulted another child. I went to court with him, never missed a counseling session, DHR was brought into my home and I spent over 2 years running around with him for that incident.
He started assulting me by age 15. I was in a car accident that limited my ability to walk for several months. From there he really got away. He stoIe my car and crashed it, started smoking and just literally started getting suspended from school on purpose. He's been in a behavior rehab residential center twice and sees a counselor weekly. I don't know what else to do. I've called the police on him several times for attacking me. He trashes the house, takes my things, and even locked me in my room one time. He's kicked my door in, burned a hole in the floor, snatch my keys and purse so i can't leave when he assaults me. He says that I'm overreacting and it's not that serious and that I'm just pitiful. I'm sitting here with my lip busted, bruised and in pain from him attacking me last night which went on over an hour and he took my phone. I had to a hidden phone in my bathroom and got in the shower so he couldn't hear me call the police and demanded they take him away this time. He threatened to kill me in front of them. I feel tormented in my own home. I work very hard for what I have, it's not fair that he thinks he can just trash it.
Then other people look at you like you are a crazy person for letting a child treat you this way. I have tried punishments like taking away items, he takes them back and threatens me if I touch his things, I've only spanked him maybe twice in his life when he was under 6 years old but decided that was not a way I wanted to discipline him. Some people say he acts this way because he's spoiled and I didn't spank him like I should. But I did other things like time-outs and take away toys and video games. But that didn't work after he got about 8. What was so wrong with providing for my child? That's what I busted my behind through school to do...be able to provide for him.
I pray everyday not to hate him. He's been diagnosed with ADHD, Severe depression, a defiant disorder, and has been in a state of psychosis before, but some of this is just straight rebellion. I feel so sorry for him which is why I keep tolerating so much. I can go on and on but I've put so much time in getting him help that I just realized I'm stressed the hell out and I need help.