difficult child has this thing she does with her head when she's lying. It's funny because I always noticed it and bristle a bit because it's a thing her biodad does as well. I always wondered how she could pick up a trait like that considering the minimal contact she's had with him over the years. But she does and now that I've finally made the connection between the little short nod of her head with the lies I discover shortly thereafter - and always related to a question that I've asked that causes that little short nod...well, it's difficult to ignore. difficult child has no money & no job. Yet, she seems to always have money for coffee, cigarettes and gas. When I ask her where she's getting the money for these things she either completely avoids giving me an answer (as she did this morning) or she tells me that her boyfriend (unemployed monkeyboy) gave her money (that he borrowed from his dad) or her bff gave her gas money for driving him to and from work. I know that this is true part of the time. But time is running thin now - Christmas is over and she's spent all her gift cards. She doesn't have a job and claims to have applied everywhere but that no one is hiring....meanwhile I see Help Wanted signs in all the windows. I must be imaging things again.... If she's on the computer madly typing away and I round the bend, she will quickly turn my way to look at me and give me 'the nod'. "Hmmmm", I wonder to myself, "She must be up to no good, talking to someone bad, writing or posting something bad". And I know I'm right, because the 'the nod' is never off. She ONLY gives me 'the nod' when she's up to no good, lying, or trying to hide something. Then I started thinking back to all the times that my exh did this to me...well, I can't remember ALL the times he gave me the nod, but I do recall quite a few. It's maddening, you know, to discover a sure fire way of KNOWING that someone is lying to you, yet not being able to prove it. This difficult child of mine was up and dressed and out of the house before me this morning. I leave my house typically around 8 for work, and difficult child was up and dressed, with a coffee by 7:45AM. I was excited at first because I thought, "Wow, she's up to go job hunting. She's taking this seriously now!" but when I said Good Morning to difficult child, she turned to me and, you guessed it, she gave me 'the nod', so I asked her, "difficult child, what are you up to this morning?" and she told me she was meeting one of her old girlfriends for breakfast. "With what money?" I asked. She ignored the question, pretended to choke and then left the kitchen. I resisted the urge to bring the nod to her attention. Do your difficult children/pcs have a certain movement or anything that is an indicator to you that they are lying? I can't believe it took me so darned long to make this connection.