Californiablonde
Well-Known Member
So had it out again with difficult child today about going to school. easy child is sick with the stomach flu so I dropped him off at my mom's so I could go to work today. I thought difficult child would argue with me and try to get out of going to school since easy child was missing, but she surprised me and she didn't....yet. I took her to Starbuck's so she could buy a coffee cake with her birthday money. Then I took her to school and she was fine the whole way there. As soon as we arrived, she started with the arguing. Begged me to drop her off at my mom's. Told me she was starting to get sick like easy child. I said nope, no way, she was not throwing up like he was, and she was going to school. Then she said her coffee cake she had was bad and she thought it was making her sick. I told her that grandma said she would absolutely NOT watch both kids today. So then she asks me to take her home. She kept up with the yelling and arguing, so I quietly picked up my phone and dialed her dad. I put him on speaker and let him know difficult child was refusing to get out of the car. He told her that she needed to get out of the car ASAP and it was non-negotiable. She screamed at me, "Whatever, I hate you," and slammed the door. I hung up with her dad and drove away. About a half hour later I get a text from difficult child apologizing for telling me she hated me. difficult child has never apologized in her LIFE, for anything. Not for a rage, meltdown, back talk, or any of her pushing/shoving. Even when prompted she refuses to apologize. I thought for sure someone put her up to it. I couldn't help myself. I texted her back asking if her dad told her to say she was sorry, or perhaps grandma. She said no. She did it all on her own. For the first time in her life she apologized. It took her 15 years to finally say the words, "I'm sorry," but she did it. I feel a little better. Dare I call this progress? Or am I hoping for too much?