I contacted the board president today and told them about this, and that I am being stonewalled into an action that I have worked hard to avoid, and that is taking it the next step to the state dept.
I pointed out some of the things that have happened that I have let go and how I attempted to follow the proper channels to correct it (which she knew). And I said here we are, he's STILL being denied FAPE, and they are more worried about getting rid of a para than they are about getting him to school for a full day....I said I wouldn't worry about this if it was an isolated thing, but this is a pattern of behavior and its getting worse instead of better, I have no choice but to protect what's working for my child.
She suggested I get on the agenda for the next board meeting.
So, I am filling out the forms to file complaints with the state.
I have since been contacted by the superintendent. The board president contacted her (she told me she would - at first I didn't want her to, then I realized the complaint forms will get sent to them, too, so who cares...). She wants to meet and understand my concerns so she can address them with <insert first name of principal - which makes me laugh cause I never pointed her out>. Wee has been doing so well, she wants that to continue.
I will probably ask exMIL to go with me and meet with her. I'll be giving her a copy of the complaints, anyway, so why not do it face to face. If she fixes it, I can withdraw the complaints.