As you know, Katie has stayed in contact with Nichole via snail mail. Nichole received a letter today which for the most part I found amusing. May we have a drum roll please??? Biomom has come to live with her. Yup, moved right in. Seems at some point after husband passed she told katie she has really high blood pressure and an enlarged heart, made it sound so bad that she guilted the girl into telling traveler's aide that she'd let her mom live with her so they'd pay her way here. Now how she got biomom from cincy to here is beyond me, because I know they won't pay for that. She told Nichole that once biomom arrived, she seemed healthy enough. She'd also told katie that the shelter there in St Louis was closing in March (so evidently this was prior to March), which of course hasn't happened because it was made up. In this case karma truly is a motha. *snicker* Biomom, you see, is a 62 yr old difficult child, and if there is anything worse than a 32 yr old difficult child, it's a 62 year old one. hahahahah I have known biomom 30 yrs, trust me, she's making Katie's life pure hades on earth. muahhaahhhaaahhaaa Now, don't get me wrong. I like biomom just fine, always have, despite her gfgdom. She's not a bad person, just well.......let's just say responsibility is not a quality she has. Her biggest fault is she goes through money like she's a billionaire. Always has, always will. It was probably the only thing she and husband had in common, well that and they liked to drink. So I have no problem imagining Katie's money vanishing like the wind shortly after it arrives each month. And that is basically what she told Nichole. She said they were just barely getting by with Alex's disability and M's check (well of course he's still there) but now with biomom there they're really hurting. Don't doubt it for a minute. Katie told Nichole that now she overwhelmingly appreciates that husband and I took them in when they had no where to go. Said she's going insane with one person, she couldn't begin to imagine the stress she must have put us through with 5. (ya think?) Gotta love Karma. LOL Serves her right for leaving her Mom totally alone in a strange city, homeless, no job, no other family and crippled with arthritis to fend for herself while they came here with huge dreams of living it up. As for her health? I can't say if it's true or not. Given she is obese, has been a heavy drinker during periods of her life......and her main diet is chips, candy and cookies....don't much doubt it. When Nichole read that part I though to myself girl you just lost your Dad who appeared healthy enough, I don't think I'd be so cold hearted when it comes to your biomom's health. And my dear sweet Kayla has evidently gone off the deep end behavior wise since the arrival of her maternal grandmother. She had flat out told her mother long before husband passed that if her other grandmother showed up she was moving in with me because she despises the woman. I get no real information on the why of this.......so I dunno. She went from straight A's to becoming a behavior problem at school and flunking. She'll be repeating the 5th grade. But this has prompted Katie to not only take Kayla to a counselor (in other words a therapist, I know exactly where she's going.....and it's likely it is school mandated) but she's going to see one too. They'll do it separately and then together. Hmmm. Does anyone else find it odd that my easy child granddaughter is the one seeing the therapist for behavior issues?? Not that I don't think it's a good idea, personally I'm hoping all sorts of bottled up stuff comes pouring out. But still. Such a huge behavior shift. So beyond the lovely karma part, which totally made my day by the way............Alex will be passing to 5th grade next year, no surprise with his IEP. She says he learned his multiplication tables.....seeing how he was having real issues with adding and subtracting simple equations before......well, I hope he can but it is something he'd have to show me. Evan finally warmed up to his teacher and can spell his name, can recognize quite a bit of his letters and numbers and write many of them, but will be held back. No surprise there either. Poor kid. Kayla has a new fb acct. And it seems back in march she messaged easy child with the acct. But fb didn't notify easy child she had a message. And honestly it's a really off the wall name so she probably would've ignored it. BUT a friend of Kayla's had posted a funny picture onto the wall of her old fb acct. Since I'm still friends with that acct it popped up in my feed. And I saw where kayla was talking to her friends using this alt acct, no doubt it was her....they were referring to her as kayla. So easy child went to message her.....discovered the old message she didn't know she had. Then sent her message apologizing for not having seen it, told her she missed her, gave kayla her cell number and address and told her to contact her whenever she wanted to or needed something. Seems in many ways Katie has had a change of heart over the events that caused this latest rift. She kept gushing about how much she appreciated how her dad and I had helped them and she hadn't realized what a strain it had had to have been on us to do so......yet we still did it. And how she would love to tell me that and thank me, but she doesn't think i want anything to do with her anymore and she knows that is her fault, she messed it all up. Then at the end of all this gushing she added that I'd hurt her so much last summer when I didn't come and visit her. This used to really make me mad when she brought it up. Now? It makes me laugh. Seriously? I spend nearly every day at easy child's last summer because she shattered her leg and couldn't do anything for herself or the boys, days I wasn't with her I was killing myself trying to get my own stuff done. I didn't really see anyone last summer, including my own husband! sheesh gimme a break already. She has plans, so she says, to get M out of there. She wants to pay off her school fines so she can go back to college since she can't find a job. She is trying to save money for a car. Although how she is going to drive said car is beyond me as she doesn't have a valid driver's license........and she can't get her license now without redoing the whole thing which she doesn't have a car to do. Once she has the car and is in school, M is supposed to leave. Okkkk. But she sees no way she can either pay off her school fines or save to get a car without M there because the income would be only Alex's disability. I have to give her credit. This makes sense, especially with biomom added in. But honestly I dunno how she is going to swing it even with him there and if she's totally serious about it. M is in no way going to help her save money so she can drop him like a hot rock. Even he isn't that stupid. The really sad part of all of this? If Katie had made a real effort after her arrival, I'd have helped her with her "plan". I'd not have handed it to her. I'd have found housework and yard work, and trust me it wouldn't have been pleasant......but I already know that I could manage the cost of her college fines. And I'd have had to work for it and given her husband's Kia as well. So I guess she really did mess things up in ways she doesn't even know about. How do I take all of this? Ehhh. Whatever. Personally, I'm still chuckling over karma.