jcox
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Also yesterday I forgot to mention that we had a meeting with the DCF worker assigned to our family for my stepson Charlie who is fourteen (If you are not familiar with the story about him we got him four years ago, he had a terrible history of abuse by his mother's mother who he was raised by etc. He was into lots of weed and hanging with the wrong people, etc.). Anyways we got a new worker because our last one who was very nice went to run a DYS facility. So the lady came for her first visit and told me that another 51a got filed on us on Friday saying that Elijah was not getting the services he needs and had some very concerning behaviors including being aggresive with his sister and to the dog. I was rattling my brain wondering who filed? I don't believe it was the school this time like last month because he had an awesome two weeks there. Then I was thinking maybe the old psychiatrist, or the therapist who kicked him out a few weeks ago, but the timing is not right for those. They would have filed already. Then I was thinking Thursday he went for Genetics testing at Tufts and Friday the report was filed. That adds up. The doctor and students did question me about his behaviors and I freely gave them information about his behaviors... too much I guess. I know that I do all I can for him. I continue to strongly advocate for him at school, drive almost two hours away for his psychiatrist because none around here are good enough for him, get him all sorts of testing, have tried before to get him admitted only to be turned away, but yet I am still presented as being a bad mother. I totally don't understand how they could do this when I took him there for help. I know it had to be that doctor or one of those students because of the timing and the info I shared with them. The DCF worker asked me to sign a release so she could prove to her boss that Elijah was in the hospital. She said it might be investigated, or screened out before it even is. She said it was in the screening process and we might get a visit or might not. No visitor today and it is the third day so they might have just screened it out seeing he is in the hospital. It makes me sad that the people who I share information with thinking that is what is best for Elijah like the school and doctors turn what I tell them into suspected neglect, when I am just trying to do what is best for him. That really hurts my heart a little bit, but have learned that I am going to have to watch what I tell people and just start asking questions like how is what they want to know relevent to the situation etc. and not sharing as much as I have about Elijah's behaviors. It just does not seem right that these professionals do that. I know all about the mandated reporting because I was a teacher before for five years at a daycare and a CNA. Both of those positions are mandated reporters too, but couldn't these people see that I was trying to get him help? It just makes me second guess myself that maybe I could have been doing something more, but I don't know what. I tried to get him admitted only to be told by psychiatrists that he did not need to be, or to be turned away from the ER with them telling me he did not meet criteria. Atleast he is in the hospital now. Good timing!
Janice
Janice