Shari
IsItFridayYet?
In my previous post about difficult child's school situation, I had left off where I'd written a letter to the director about the teacher that difficult child has trouble with, and her daughter, who is a helper there.
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I spoke with the director and she had talked with both the teacher and the daughter. While difficult child was still being put in time-out, it seems to have been fair, and he doesn't come home every night angry about missing entire playtimes, etc, because he was set in time-out.
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I'm ok with that.
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Today, however, I picked him up early to go to BT. He was on the playground, playing, but he was ANGRY. I asked why. He said he'd been in timeout only one time, but it was for something really bad - he called that teacher an a-hole. I asked him to tell me about it. He did.
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Seems it started in pottery class. He missed a day of school, and missed his turn on the pottery wheel. He will get to make it up, but he was angry that he hadn't got a turn, so he threw a fit and shoved some chairs around. He got put in timeout, then, outside with the other teacher (the one he doesn't get along with). He wanted to apologize to the pottery teacher, but wasn't allowed to leave time out to do it, so he cried. The teacher he has trouble with then got up beside him and told him "boo hoo, waa- waa" repeatedly, until he got angry and called her an a-hole.
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All the way to BT, he talked about killing this teacher, tho he doesn't recognize the significance of her mocking him - he just knows he's very angry at her.
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He was absolutley manic at BT. I asked his BT to talk to him about the incident, and get her feel on if he's cutting it straight. She not only feels he's telling the truth, she's worried about the rage its triggering in him - he doesn't usually hang onto things like this. He threw things at her, at me, kicked me, etc, during BT - behaviors she has only seen rarely since 18 months ago or longer...
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I was alst met on the playground by children telling me how bad his behavior was today and yesterday, and all the bad things he did.
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I'm angry. I understand the frustration this child creates as well or better than anyone, but this is NOT the way to handle him. I will be meeting the director again tomorrow, if I don't call her tonight. I'm not irate, I'm frighteningly calm...
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I spoke with the director and she had talked with both the teacher and the daughter. While difficult child was still being put in time-out, it seems to have been fair, and he doesn't come home every night angry about missing entire playtimes, etc, because he was set in time-out.
***
I'm ok with that.
***
Today, however, I picked him up early to go to BT. He was on the playground, playing, but he was ANGRY. I asked why. He said he'd been in timeout only one time, but it was for something really bad - he called that teacher an a-hole. I asked him to tell me about it. He did.
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Seems it started in pottery class. He missed a day of school, and missed his turn on the pottery wheel. He will get to make it up, but he was angry that he hadn't got a turn, so he threw a fit and shoved some chairs around. He got put in timeout, then, outside with the other teacher (the one he doesn't get along with). He wanted to apologize to the pottery teacher, but wasn't allowed to leave time out to do it, so he cried. The teacher he has trouble with then got up beside him and told him "boo hoo, waa- waa" repeatedly, until he got angry and called her an a-hole.
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All the way to BT, he talked about killing this teacher, tho he doesn't recognize the significance of her mocking him - he just knows he's very angry at her.
***
He was absolutley manic at BT. I asked his BT to talk to him about the incident, and get her feel on if he's cutting it straight. She not only feels he's telling the truth, she's worried about the rage its triggering in him - he doesn't usually hang onto things like this. He threw things at her, at me, kicked me, etc, during BT - behaviors she has only seen rarely since 18 months ago or longer...
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I was alst met on the playground by children telling me how bad his behavior was today and yesterday, and all the bad things he did.
***
I'm angry. I understand the frustration this child creates as well or better than anyone, but this is NOT the way to handle him. I will be meeting the director again tomorrow, if I don't call her tonight. I'm not irate, I'm frighteningly calm...