I posted a week ago about difficult child's new tendency to run when he gets angry. He has now had 5 incidents, three of which involved the police. Last night was so scary. We were leaving his TKD class and the car wouldn't start. I called emergency roadside and they were sending someone to jump it or tow it if necessary. They gave me a timeframe of 60 minutes. Next I called husband and asked him to pick up difficult child so he would not have to wait. difficult child became angry and said he wasn't leaving. I asked him why and he said that he wanted to ride in the tow truck. The roadside assistance person had already told me that the tow truck could only transport one person. I told him that this wasn't possible and why. When husband arrived, he was in full meltdown, nothing we said got through to him. He settled down finally and got in the car. He started up again while my husband was driving. When they got home, husband asked difficult child to wait in the car while he opened the garage door and pulled in the car. Instead difficult child got out ran into the garage and into the house. husband pulled in the car, went to go in the house and found the door locked (by difficult child). He got his key out, opened it and discovered that difficult child had taken off throught the front door. husband is picking up deadbolt on the way home today. He was no where in side but the door was wide open so he knew what he did. He called me who luckily only had to wait about 5 minutes longer for the roadside assistant, the car took the jump and I was close to home. I siad I would drive around the neighbor looking for him. I did this for a half hour asking everyone I saw walking, jogging, on bikes, etc... Only one group of people saw him and he was no longer on the road that they saw him take. It was getting dark at this point, so I called 911. Two cruisers began driving the neighborhood with spotlights and asking neighbors. I came home and my husband went out to drive the path back to TKD and see if he was trying to go there. An officer took a missing person's report asking horrible questions like .. Are dental records available? I was terrified, they called in county and state police, and were going to get a chopper and a bloodhound and then husband who was back to combing the neighborhood, found him wondering the street (THANK GOD!). Gfs exact words: "Oh hi dad, I knew you'd come looking for me." He gets in the car without a fuss. I get a hold of the police and two officers are at the house waiting. He returns and tell them how he wanted to be alone so he ran away. They give the standard lines about how worried everyone was, what could have happened to him, etc.. They tell him suggestions for what he could have done. We have already put together a safety plan with his therapist and behavior counselor so he knows what he could have done, should have done, etc.. He is either uncapable or unwilling to access this information when he is upset. During all this, difficult child is not phased. He pulls pinecombs out of his pocket that he had collected and talks about the black and white dog he met. He says, I won't do it again, I promise. Two of the most meaningless word in the difficult child language-LOL! He is infruiated today because his behavior counselor will not take him to the office and is working with him here at the house because he's a flight risk. He stood on a kitchen stool and through his cereal bowl across the room. He says he won't do it again and is outraged that we won't believe him. We talk about building trust and it goes right over his angry little head. I am glad she is not taking him out because it's not safe BUT this is a punishment for me as well because the few hours a week he is with his worker are my alone time, my errand running time, my get it done time. I do not know what to do. We had a psychiatrist appointment earlier in the day, I discussed his last weeks running away, his unstable reactions like breaking things and hitting, she added to his trilleptal but wanted to wait until we see how that goes before adjusting the serequel or trying to wean the geodon. The good new is she is going to see him again in two weeks and says call if there are problems in the meantime. There are always problems in the meantime! I don't want him to end up in psychiatric hospital again, it just fuels his fire and gives him more authority figures to butheads with. Insurance won't let him stay long enough to get anywhere with a medication change.
If you're still reading, thaks for hanging in there. I feel a little better just venting.
Thanks
Christy
If you're still reading, thaks for hanging in there. I feel a little better just venting.
Thanks
Christy