husband has been on my "list" for a while....he's making me crazy with all the complaining - and now, I swear, he's gone right over the edge!
The backstory? We don't have a lot of money - we live pretty much paycheck to paycheck. And this year, there is nothing extra for the holidays. I hate living this way and the fact that there is no holiday money has been weighing heavily on my mind. I've been trying to discuss my worries with husband, but he can't be bothered having a conversation about money / saving / budgeting / planning ahead - he'd rather not think about it.
Several weeks ago, we were notified that we would each be receiving a $100 pre-paid gift card from the insurance co. husband immediately started working on a long list of things to buy for himself.
Me? I continued to stress about holiday spending.
Finally, yesterday, I sat down and went over the budget and decided where I could trim in order to pay for holiday gifts. I decided that my $100 gift card was best put toward the holidays. Combined with some careful scrimping, I should be able to pull off some shopping for the immediate family.
This made me feel sooo good! Finally, my worry about holiday cash was solved! Whoo-Hoo! Happy Dance!
husband is furious. He feels that because I am putting *my* gift card toward the holidays, this means that *he* has to do the same. So he ranted and raved about his "bad luck" and the fact that I have "ruined everything" and now he is refusing to sepak to me.
I told him I didn't count his card toward the holiday budget. I told him I don't care what he spends his gift card on. But it doesn't matter - I've "ruined" it.
I am beginning to feel like I just can't win any more. There seems to be nothing I can do that doesn't result in a complaint. If I hadn't figured out a holiday fund - you'd better believe I would have heard complaints about that!
--sigh--
So I don't know....maybe there really is something in the air right now that is making these men act insane? It's certainly making ME crazy...
The backstory? We don't have a lot of money - we live pretty much paycheck to paycheck. And this year, there is nothing extra for the holidays. I hate living this way and the fact that there is no holiday money has been weighing heavily on my mind. I've been trying to discuss my worries with husband, but he can't be bothered having a conversation about money / saving / budgeting / planning ahead - he'd rather not think about it.
Several weeks ago, we were notified that we would each be receiving a $100 pre-paid gift card from the insurance co. husband immediately started working on a long list of things to buy for himself.
Me? I continued to stress about holiday spending.
Finally, yesterday, I sat down and went over the budget and decided where I could trim in order to pay for holiday gifts. I decided that my $100 gift card was best put toward the holidays. Combined with some careful scrimping, I should be able to pull off some shopping for the immediate family.
This made me feel sooo good! Finally, my worry about holiday cash was solved! Whoo-Hoo! Happy Dance!
husband is furious. He feels that because I am putting *my* gift card toward the holidays, this means that *he* has to do the same. So he ranted and raved about his "bad luck" and the fact that I have "ruined everything" and now he is refusing to sepak to me.
I told him I didn't count his card toward the holiday budget. I told him I don't care what he spends his gift card on. But it doesn't matter - I've "ruined" it.
I am beginning to feel like I just can't win any more. There seems to be nothing I can do that doesn't result in a complaint. If I hadn't figured out a holiday fund - you'd better believe I would have heard complaints about that!
--sigh--
So I don't know....maybe there really is something in the air right now that is making these men act insane? It's certainly making ME crazy...