how to get a difficult child not to say certain words? I can't control most of what comes out of his mouth. I hate the swearing and the rudeness but the one think that really sets me off is when difficult child uses the "N" word. Often when he is mad he will call husband, easy child or me this word. We try to explain what it means and how inappropriate it, we've tried giving consequences, we've tried ignoring. Nothing works. I think someday he is going to end up getting beat up for using this word.