Hi, My difficult child is 12 and in 7th grade. He hates school with the passion but somehow hides that at school. At home he talks about killing himself so that he won't have to go to school. I respond with very little reaction to this. Occasionally I say that would be upsetting to us and isn't a good idea but no big reactions. We are back to me begging him/threatening him to get out of bed, dressing him, packing his backpack, putting his breakfast in his hand, putting his shoes on, combing his hair sometimes and then walking him out the door. I've pretty much given up on tooth brushing. He will walk to the bus stop but sometimes he threatens to just walk away from the school when he gets there. I have talked to the school about his intense dislike of school but they just don't see it there. He raises his hand, goes to class, and does enough of his classwork to get by. His grades are A-F, with lots of failed tests. I read anything to him that he has to read at home - novels, etc. He does his homework with A LOT of help from us and a lot of procrastination, crying (sometimes for 90 minutes before he will start the work), and anger. (banging kitchen chairs on the floor, knocking things against doors so you hear these loud bang, bang, bangs until I tell him to stop.) When I asked the psychiatrist if I should just back off and let him fail at school he said that generally turns out to be a bad idea because kids like this DO need help. I am just so exhausted from this fight everyday. He takes a lot of medicine and I don't know how his little mind just breaks thru that medicine and he is still such an irritable, frustrated kid. Are other people doing this exact same thing every morning and every night with their difficult children? Do I just keep pushing him out the door until he is too big for me to do that? If I rescue him like this everyday will he grow up and never learn to take responsibility and do things for himself? He can't drop out of school so what does the school district expect me to do? Do you just say he wouldn't get dressed or leave so he is refusing to go to school? This started in kindergarten and just gets steadily worse every year. The suicide threats didn't start until near the end of last year. Just looking for ideas and what to expect as he gets older.