I found part of this article really hit the nail on the head regarding difficult child's behavior. I'm going to be printing off copies to hand to all difficult child's therapists and dr.'s. Will probably give a copy to the in home supports when we have our last meeting. This part really fits but doesn't just pertain to friends/family in our case: https://web.archive.org/web/2008070...ain-injury-impact-on-carers---fact-sheet.html LACK OF UNDERSTANDING People who are somewhat distanced from the person with the injury often have little understanding of what they are going through. The person with the injury may be able to act normally for short periods in front of visitors or publicly, so that many wont believe the difficult home situation as described by the family. Rather than offer support, friends or members of the extended family may make judgements about how a person cares for their relative.