J
justtotallyspent
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Hello again everyone... I have posted on and off over the last couple months, posted some relipies to offer another understanding ear. But here I sit at the end of the line, waiting for the phone to ring again today with the list of problems at school. A quick re-cap we have a 4 almost 5 yr old difficult child as well as 3 other children (1 only here on weekends).
Our difficult child has pushed us to the end... over the past summer holiday from school his behaviors have blown totally out-of-control. He is physically aggressive daily to myself, siblings, schoolmates and our animals. He thinks no-one feels pain or hurt except him (if you pick him up you are causing him pain or "killing him"; mainly because you are removing him from something that he is unwilling to stop on his own). However he threw himself backwards off a chair yesterday to proclaim that it really didn't hurt so he wasnt going to sit for a time-out he would just knock himself off again. He refuses to take blame for inappropriate actions (always someones fault), proclaims often he does not nothing (sits in his room all day) even after just being out somewhere or playing. Often says no one like him and that we just trick him that we love him. In his thoughts if we "loved him" he would not do these things to get in trouble. He believe totally that no one gets in trouble or punished but him (even tho he sees others get in trouble). He will blame himself when someone does get in trouble and also feels everyone should get trouble also if he has did something wrong. It seemed to start gradual with all of these things but now it is continous and seems like it starts from the minute he is awake til he goes to sleep.
School is interesting to say the least... they are trying to be understanding and help but also don't know what to say. He has wrestled inappropriately and after being told to stop.. continued until he hurt the other child and then said it was the other kid that had hurt him (it was all seen). He has ran away after recess because he wanted to stay outside, and has came home soaked after playin in any water he could find (the teacher changes him twice with clothes we sent). He refuses to sit for circle time, refuses to read and will say no any suggestions the teacher has. He picks what he wants to do (whichs changes everyday) and will go into tantrums if he is asked to do anything else.
His tempertantrums last over 1 hr at times, where he hits, screams, breaks things, walks/runs in circles, jumps up and down and will yell about how you hurt him "kill him" if you try to restrain him as to save him from hurting himself or others.
We have reached the end, we are talking Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but don't know. Thats a big step, my husband is aprehensive. He doesnt feel right just taking him outta the home, he is too young he says, but then worries what he is going to do to someone or something the following day. I have just went on and on and am looking to for some guidance.
Our difficult child has pushed us to the end... over the past summer holiday from school his behaviors have blown totally out-of-control. He is physically aggressive daily to myself, siblings, schoolmates and our animals. He thinks no-one feels pain or hurt except him (if you pick him up you are causing him pain or "killing him"; mainly because you are removing him from something that he is unwilling to stop on his own). However he threw himself backwards off a chair yesterday to proclaim that it really didn't hurt so he wasnt going to sit for a time-out he would just knock himself off again. He refuses to take blame for inappropriate actions (always someones fault), proclaims often he does not nothing (sits in his room all day) even after just being out somewhere or playing. Often says no one like him and that we just trick him that we love him. In his thoughts if we "loved him" he would not do these things to get in trouble. He believe totally that no one gets in trouble or punished but him (even tho he sees others get in trouble). He will blame himself when someone does get in trouble and also feels everyone should get trouble also if he has did something wrong. It seemed to start gradual with all of these things but now it is continous and seems like it starts from the minute he is awake til he goes to sleep.
School is interesting to say the least... they are trying to be understanding and help but also don't know what to say. He has wrestled inappropriately and after being told to stop.. continued until he hurt the other child and then said it was the other kid that had hurt him (it was all seen). He has ran away after recess because he wanted to stay outside, and has came home soaked after playin in any water he could find (the teacher changes him twice with clothes we sent). He refuses to sit for circle time, refuses to read and will say no any suggestions the teacher has. He picks what he wants to do (whichs changes everyday) and will go into tantrums if he is asked to do anything else.
His tempertantrums last over 1 hr at times, where he hits, screams, breaks things, walks/runs in circles, jumps up and down and will yell about how you hurt him "kill him" if you try to restrain him as to save him from hurting himself or others.
We have reached the end, we are talking Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but don't know. Thats a big step, my husband is aprehensive. He doesnt feel right just taking him outta the home, he is too young he says, but then worries what he is going to do to someone or something the following day. I have just went on and on and am looking to for some guidance.