Thanks all for the support. AT first I was so embarrassed, I didn't know who to talk to. But today I am actually hanging in there. I have been very busy with work and the girls. Of course difficult child has the flu so she has been sick since Sunday. husband has been in a really bad mood lately. I don't want to say porn is the end all, but it is worrisome. I feel it leads to other dangerous behavior. And like I said, we have a great relationship in every way. We hug, hold hands, tell each other I love you every day. So it surprises me that he would want to look elsewhere. I'm sorry, I'm rambling. I can't even spell lately. LOL. sigh.
if you do choose to talk to him about it, expect him to act angry. it will be his cover for himself. I would approach it in a soft tone, be very quiet. tell him the truth...that you saw that someone was on porn sites. tell him how much this hurts you and ask him never to do that. he would not even have to admit it, and you would be able to get it out.