Burnt Out

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by TamAnn, Feb 8, 2010.

  1. TamAnn

    TamAnn New Member

    I:faint: have a 5 yr old daughter has been tested and scored in the clinical for ODD and ADHD. She has been aggressive since she was 2. She is a loving, smart and funny child however I rarely see the loving side anymore. She goes to a program Special Education for behaviors everyday for 2.5 hours. She has never had a problem there. The daycare she was in before had issues with her behavior everyday near the end. My daughter would target one teacher in particular by physically attacking her when she was out of control. Now that she is home with me I am the target. She literally leaves me with bumps and bruises by biting, hitting, kicking and throwing hard objects quite accurately. In her frenzies she ends up hurting herself too and her lack of fear scares me for her. She bothers her brother constantly by running into his room to annoy him by any number of tactics. I have been in tears every day lately and have no clue what to do. I am following up with a behavior specialist that works with her GP tomorrow. I feel very defeated at this point. I also feel pathetic that my 5 yr runs our household and that at times I am afraid of her. I am glad to have found this site to be able to share. I am just so burnt out, tired out of ideas or the strength to go on this way. Tomorrow is a new day. Although...I will be real today SUCKS! I miss my little girl who was so easy to be around. As I type this she is unplugging my laptop UGHHHH! Thanks for listening.
  2. SRL

    SRL Active Member

    Hi TamAnn, welcome to our forum.

    The behavioral specialist may be able to give you some help but I'm always reluctant to recommend that if no other assessments have been done. I'd suggest the following books--the first to help you think through what might be underlying the behaviors, the second to give you some strategies.

    What Your Explosive Child Is Trying to Tell You: Discovering the Pathway from Symptoms to Solutions by Dr. Douglas Riley

    The Explosive Child by Ross Greene
  3. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    Hi! You're talking to the burnout queen! I'm just about totally fried.

    Have you had a neuropsychologist done or a multi disciplinary evaluation done? You'll usually get a better idea as to what's stirring her up.

    Good luck!