HeadlightsMom
Well-Known Member
Hey, all! Haven't been on here in seemingly ages (ok, I guess it's just been a couple of weeks). We had a blast! We had 10 of us in a week-long celebration which included Disneyland (new Cars Racers is awesome!), bowling (whoa....just how many of us slid over the line and onto our backsides laughing too hard?), museums (pretending we are cultured....LOL!), eating entirely too much, and watching a buncha loud football (BCS Championship game -- go Ducks! at the best sports bar ever!) and Seahawks last week at family's house. What a great time!
However......... our daughter-in-law had an emergency gallbladder surgery. This is usually no big deal, but she hemorrhaged and had to go back into emergency surgery the next day for a bleeder. Fortunately, they located it and she is back home a week later. I spent many hours over the days with her at the hospital. I kept thinking about how much I love her. How much difficult child is missing out on by not knowing his son (our 4-yo grandson). I found myself wondering what would happen if the worst happened (which, it didn't). I spent many hours with her family --- who has embraced us as their family, also. Oh, how I love them! difficult child continues AWOL (absolutely nothing from him since Nov 1). We have adjusted. I was angry at first. I am not now. I miss him at times......but not so much that I want to see him on my doorstep in his current state. Whatever his choices in life, though, I realize the AMAZING thing he did by being in a relationship with our daughter-in-law....for bringing us our beautiful grandson.....for sharing her large family whom we love with us.
So, my gratitude is that our daughter-in-law is ok. And for all the beauty she has brought into our lives. And, honestly? None of that could've happened without our difficult child. So, by extension, I am reminded of my gratitude for difficult child. I love him and do miss his smile. But know that it's best that we not see him until he is receptive. And I can live with that. Just trust God and go with the flow, ya know? Lots of practice over decades....getting better at it.
Lastly.........OMG! How many watched that Seahawks game? O-M-G! We are in football heaven and planning to have a big blow-out Super Bowl party! GO HAWKS!
Hoping you're all well. It may take me a bit to catch up with all of your 'hap's. But I'm on it!
However......... our daughter-in-law had an emergency gallbladder surgery. This is usually no big deal, but she hemorrhaged and had to go back into emergency surgery the next day for a bleeder. Fortunately, they located it and she is back home a week later. I spent many hours over the days with her at the hospital. I kept thinking about how much I love her. How much difficult child is missing out on by not knowing his son (our 4-yo grandson). I found myself wondering what would happen if the worst happened (which, it didn't). I spent many hours with her family --- who has embraced us as their family, also. Oh, how I love them! difficult child continues AWOL (absolutely nothing from him since Nov 1). We have adjusted. I was angry at first. I am not now. I miss him at times......but not so much that I want to see him on my doorstep in his current state. Whatever his choices in life, though, I realize the AMAZING thing he did by being in a relationship with our daughter-in-law....for bringing us our beautiful grandson.....for sharing her large family whom we love with us.
So, my gratitude is that our daughter-in-law is ok. And for all the beauty she has brought into our lives. And, honestly? None of that could've happened without our difficult child. So, by extension, I am reminded of my gratitude for difficult child. I love him and do miss his smile. But know that it's best that we not see him until he is receptive. And I can live with that. Just trust God and go with the flow, ya know? Lots of practice over decades....getting better at it.
Lastly.........OMG! How many watched that Seahawks game? O-M-G! We are in football heaven and planning to have a big blow-out Super Bowl party! GO HAWKS!
Hoping you're all well. It may take me a bit to catch up with all of your 'hap's. But I'm on it!