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I am thoroughly confused so thought I'd turn to you ladies, my REAL experts. difficult child was diagnosis'd with Asperger's in January and situational depression relating to school issues last month as well as ADHD at age 6. These diagnosis's sure explain a lot of things. Now for the confusion.
I came home from getting gas tonight and saw difficult child and easy child/difficult child walking out of the garage. They both had an "off" look so I asked what was going on. difficult child proceeds to tell me an elaborate, realistic scenario as easy child/difficult child is walking away slowly with his head down (he CANNOT lie). I tell difficult child he's a terrible liar (trying to protect easy child/difficult child) so he goes into a totally different elaborate, realistic scenario. easy child/difficult child is still looking "odd" so I ask easy child/difficult child if THAT story was true. He looked at difficult child and told him "you know I'm going to end up telling her". difficult child laid on the ground and started crying as he admitted to me that he has stolen things (pocket knives and lighters) from 2 local stores and one out of town when he and I spent some 1:1 time last week. He went to his "hiding spot" and gave them all to me. He says he feels safe when he has one of the knives in his pocket and the lighters are for his friend's fire pit because they don't have one so he needs them to light the fire when he is there (2-3x a week).
What confuses me is: Are Aspie's capable of lying to this extent to avoid getting in trouble? I was under the impression that they are bound by rules of right and wrong and are usually very honest. This is VERY new behavior. Do we have the wrong diagnosis? Is there another diagnosis I don't know about YET? Is there more to Asperger's that I just don't know yet? He says he can't help himself when he sees one he wants. This just doesn't sound "right" to me.
Any suggestions or comments are very, very welcome.
I came home from getting gas tonight and saw difficult child and easy child/difficult child walking out of the garage. They both had an "off" look so I asked what was going on. difficult child proceeds to tell me an elaborate, realistic scenario as easy child/difficult child is walking away slowly with his head down (he CANNOT lie). I tell difficult child he's a terrible liar (trying to protect easy child/difficult child) so he goes into a totally different elaborate, realistic scenario. easy child/difficult child is still looking "odd" so I ask easy child/difficult child if THAT story was true. He looked at difficult child and told him "you know I'm going to end up telling her". difficult child laid on the ground and started crying as he admitted to me that he has stolen things (pocket knives and lighters) from 2 local stores and one out of town when he and I spent some 1:1 time last week. He went to his "hiding spot" and gave them all to me. He says he feels safe when he has one of the knives in his pocket and the lighters are for his friend's fire pit because they don't have one so he needs them to light the fire when he is there (2-3x a week).
What confuses me is: Are Aspie's capable of lying to this extent to avoid getting in trouble? I was under the impression that they are bound by rules of right and wrong and are usually very honest. This is VERY new behavior. Do we have the wrong diagnosis? Is there another diagnosis I don't know about YET? Is there more to Asperger's that I just don't know yet? He says he can't help himself when he sees one he wants. This just doesn't sound "right" to me.
Any suggestions or comments are very, very welcome.