He was to appear today. I'd arranged with a lifelong friend to go with her (2 hours away) and spend the night at her parents house, they live in the same small town where court is. Called investigator yesterday morning to get the appearance time only to be glad I called, it was remanded until January 5. I would not have known without that last minute call. This type of thing is becoming so frustrating. I have to track someone down for any info, no calls are made to victims with updates. I made the trip anyhow as to not disappoint friends parents. We had a lovely over night stay. Her parents are wonderful people. They treated us as a Christmas gift to a elegant dinner out. We arrived home before dinner and made a stop at a trading post and found great deals on unique gifts for kids and S/O. On the maddening and upsetting side, his lawyer sought disclosure of all victims mental health records, doctor files and all therapy notes, from the time of offenses until now. None of us were told of this invasive request. It was granted and the court delay was to give he and his lawyer time to examine the records. I would not have known had I not called about a court time and even when told of the new date I was only told the issue of all of our records when I wanted specifics in why it was postponed. Investigator even cut call short and said she would call back, and I was only told the facts an hour later when she called back. I returned home today to a unknown number on my telephone call display. I googled the number and it was the crown attorneys office. No message. I had the impression there was more news investigator wasn't sure if she should share. I am guessing the break in our call was to find out from the crown attorney what to tell me or not tell me. I will have to call crowns office tomorrow. I imagine she called to tell me something, first time to get a call from that office. I can't even get Into the why of my invaded feeling and sickening disgust at a prehistoric system that allows a defense a chance to attack the victims and invade our private lives in this type of way. I'm trying to repeat to myself that I'm strong enough to handle anything they throw at me. It's kind of working. It's kind of not.