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Crumbling Family Rock
I saw this the other day and again last night during a tantrum - It's like there was somebody else behind my daughter's eyes. It's a look I haven't seen before and it was SCARY.
Over the weekend she hid in the bathroom, I knew she was behind the door and I jumped out to scare her before she could scare me. She got all excited but was throwing up her hands and acting all weird - but there was a weird look in her eyes. I took it to be that her pupils were big from sitting in the dark (she has blue eyes so it would be more of a contrast).
Last night she had a total breakdown. husband went to the store for groceries and she stared acting up. She climbed up on the counter and got a piece of choc cake after I told her no because husband and given her one after school. I had to wrestle it out of her hand and told her I threw it all away (I just hid it, I need my chocolate!) and she got all upset, climbing on things, running to each end of the house and hiding. I kept pulling her down off the counter and while she was up there she was playing some stupid game (I guess) where she was trying to be more powerful than me and do what she wanted. But the look in her eyes was weird and agressive and just not her. I put her in her bedroom twice and locked the door, she broke out, I eventually tried to wrap/hug her to keep her from running around and try to calm down, she kneed me in the eye and that hurt like heck and I let go, she messed up more stuff around the house (she had been leaving a wake of mess during the whole time), and seeing how hurt I actually was sat on the couch and started crying, apologized (and meant it) and then ran in my room and flopped on my bed and cried some more. I went in and huged her and tried to calm her down the rest of the way. The entire time she sat there lying to me just to get sympathy (1. everybody thought her new outfit was ugly, 2. everybody including the teacher hit her that day and 3. she thought she was ugly).
I spoke to husband about this and he said he's seen that look before too. He says it's a mischeivious look, the head tilted down, the eyes tilted up. It's like something snaps and she has to get this agressive energy out of her, then she breaks down and cries. It's like she can't help it.
So what is it? Somehting new or just some of the same in a new form? What do I need to watch out for?
Over the weekend she hid in the bathroom, I knew she was behind the door and I jumped out to scare her before she could scare me. She got all excited but was throwing up her hands and acting all weird - but there was a weird look in her eyes. I took it to be that her pupils were big from sitting in the dark (she has blue eyes so it would be more of a contrast).
Last night she had a total breakdown. husband went to the store for groceries and she stared acting up. She climbed up on the counter and got a piece of choc cake after I told her no because husband and given her one after school. I had to wrestle it out of her hand and told her I threw it all away (I just hid it, I need my chocolate!) and she got all upset, climbing on things, running to each end of the house and hiding. I kept pulling her down off the counter and while she was up there she was playing some stupid game (I guess) where she was trying to be more powerful than me and do what she wanted. But the look in her eyes was weird and agressive and just not her. I put her in her bedroom twice and locked the door, she broke out, I eventually tried to wrap/hug her to keep her from running around and try to calm down, she kneed me in the eye and that hurt like heck and I let go, she messed up more stuff around the house (she had been leaving a wake of mess during the whole time), and seeing how hurt I actually was sat on the couch and started crying, apologized (and meant it) and then ran in my room and flopped on my bed and cried some more. I went in and huged her and tried to calm her down the rest of the way. The entire time she sat there lying to me just to get sympathy (1. everybody thought her new outfit was ugly, 2. everybody including the teacher hit her that day and 3. she thought she was ugly).
I spoke to husband about this and he said he's seen that look before too. He says it's a mischeivious look, the head tilted down, the eyes tilted up. It's like something snaps and she has to get this agressive energy out of her, then she breaks down and cries. It's like she can't help it.
So what is it? Somehting new or just some of the same in a new form? What do I need to watch out for?