Hello, I figured I find this board useful even though I'm the daughter of such parents and is seeking advice from other parents to get more of their perspectives so I can find where to go. First a little background about me: I'm a 25 year old Asian girl from a first generation family (I also first generation but I lived most of my life in the states). My parents own an asian fusion restaurant and I've been working there for the last 6 years with no pay. When I was 13, I was threatened that I would not be supported for my living expenses anymore if I didn't become a doctor. So starting from high school I enrolled into science and medical classes. Recently I graduated with a bachelors in bio health pre-pharmacy with my parents working to pay every college expense of mine including renting an apartment near campus (I did get scholarships and discounts on tuition to lessen the burden.) I know my parents are somewhat narcisstic, but I still feel like I'm in the wrong somewhere. I never wanted to go into the medication field, but I was scared because I had no other family to turn to since all my relatives were overseas. Not to mention I'm not a citizen and don't know all my rights very well. While in school I work on Fridays-Sundays. And any time out of school I work 12 hours a day, 7 days a week nonstop. I don't think all the time I've worked will ever repay my parents as it seems that I can never live up to their expectations. I'm so tired every night trying to fill applications and paperwork for jobs. And if I do get an interview I have to go there then immediately come to the restaurant to work after. Honestly I could've moved out by 18 with my boyfriend, but I feel that's improper and don't want to abandon my parents (not to mention I'll start entirely from scratch with no insurance or anything). I'm constantly on the receiving end of verbal abuse and lived a sheltered life as I wasn't allowed to communicate with my peers much unless there were to be academic advantage. I feel like a failure to my mom and dad because I haven't found a job yet, but I'm at my wit's end. I need some advice from other parents with weary daughters like myself. What would you like me to do next in order to make you happy? I'm turning 26 this year and I feel so inexperienced still even though I've achieved high academic marks. How can I communicate with my parents that I'm still trying? I never stole their money or anything even though they gave me access to their bank accounts (I never touched that money because I feel like I'll never be able to pay back.) I'm scared that I will be abandoned because I'm useless from what a lot of stories I read from moms here.