Yes, we are letting our daughter stay at our house for the time being. She is making an effort to get into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). She's being very good, really, but it's imperative she get in as soon as possible. Unfortunately the center I took her to after her discharge from detox got back to her finally with this message left on our answering machine: "We do not think that your needs will best be met by our program at this time". It took five days to come up with that completely unhelpful response? Don't they know that's an eternity for someone in her situation? As I said to wife, well, then, OK, how about a recommendation as to where she can have her needs met at this time, then? One thing we found out, she is not HIV positive, after all. One test was inconclusive and I sort of assumed that given her time on the street it must be positive. But by a miracle the retest came back negative. But I wonder if that's why they turned her down. She's been in touch with two other centers. Three weeks waiting period. It's been a week since any kind of incident with her, and she is on the phone every day in hopes of a spot opening up, going to NA/AA, etc., but as I said, it's imperative she get into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) asap. From past experience, this can't last if she's not in a highly supervised setting, and the strain of providing the supervision is taking its toll at home -- for instance, driving her to meetings and waiting on her, since we can't afford to let her out of our sight. There were two episodes early on. I wouldn't let her make a call to the man she'd been living with last "to see about picking up her stuff" and she threw a fit, but later admitted she was wrong and apologized. A couple of days later she says in her it's-no-big-deal voice that she was going to call a friend and maybe go see a movie. Same deal. Mom and I said no way - she threw a fit - then subsided and apologized. If she does get in to a center before pulling a runner, I think she'll probably do pretty well for several months, then we'll see. For sure, she won't be living with us again. Our granddaughter is handling this very well. She knows mommy is only visiting until she can stay at the home for people who want to stop taking drugs. She formed the maternal bond with her grandma, and her mother's relationship with her has been more like an older sister who's out on her own or an aunt who comes to visit, so even if difficult child does bolt, I think she'll be OK. Nevertheless, the sooner J gets in somewhere, the better. Frankly I've been a little embarassed to post this update, having gone against the good counsel of several of you not to let difficult child come back. So far it has not been disastrous but if difficult child does skip again, we'll be kicking ourselves for enabling yet again and it would be sure to be hurtful to our gr.daughter even if J is just an "aunt" (so to speak) to her. Give us a prayer.