TiredSoul
Warrior Mom since 2007
Last night 5 y.o. easy child was asking questions about what happens when you die, how you get to heaven, and where heaven is, etc. He was talking about a story they read in his christian preschool last year where a kid goes to the hospital and then he wakes up in heaven. I am not very religious but was answering his questions as best as I could.
Well 10 y.o. difficult child got so upset. He was yelling and saying they should not read stories like that and then he started crying (a lot). The topic upset him so much. Of course then because he was so upset and was crying so hard - he then got mad and started swearing and telling me to shut up and telling me he hates me and he is going to kill himself. I could see deep down under the anger he was sad/scared/hurt. When he was younger he used to worry about me/him dying. He was telling his little brother that everything just goes dark when you die and that's it. I was trying to tell him heaven is kind of like a bonus round (relating to video games) and telling him when you have finished what you are supposed to do here on earth and fulfilled your purpose then God chooses you to go to Heaven and promises you eternal life and all his glory (again, I am not religious - just reiterating what I have heard/been told). He just kept telling me to shut up. He was so upset.
Does anyone have experience with this? Any suggestions? I told them I could not answer all of their questions but would be happy to go to church with them and try to get the answers. Of course he said NO WAY. I am just concerned as I did not realize he is still very bothered by death and wonder if this is normal or if I should get someone for him to talk to. Little brother was more concerned with why difficult child was getting so upset than he was with what I was telling him.
Well 10 y.o. difficult child got so upset. He was yelling and saying they should not read stories like that and then he started crying (a lot). The topic upset him so much. Of course then because he was so upset and was crying so hard - he then got mad and started swearing and telling me to shut up and telling me he hates me and he is going to kill himself. I could see deep down under the anger he was sad/scared/hurt. When he was younger he used to worry about me/him dying. He was telling his little brother that everything just goes dark when you die and that's it. I was trying to tell him heaven is kind of like a bonus round (relating to video games) and telling him when you have finished what you are supposed to do here on earth and fulfilled your purpose then God chooses you to go to Heaven and promises you eternal life and all his glory (again, I am not religious - just reiterating what I have heard/been told). He just kept telling me to shut up. He was so upset.
Does anyone have experience with this? Any suggestions? I told them I could not answer all of their questions but would be happy to go to church with them and try to get the answers. Of course he said NO WAY. I am just concerned as I did not realize he is still very bothered by death and wonder if this is normal or if I should get someone for him to talk to. Little brother was more concerned with why difficult child was getting so upset than he was with what I was telling him.