TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
I got a call from the principal, Sr. C, about 20 min. ago. She said that the contract we signed came across her desk and difficult child could not miss more than 2 days of school. I must not have read the fine print; I thought it meant with-o a dr's note.
He has had a cold and sinus infection. I got a dr's note.
He went to the nurse's ofc (see my other note here) but the nurse and I got him to stay.
Sr. C said she is seeing the same pattern they saw last yr and that difficult child was very interested in staying at this school and he was willing to put forth the effort. They don't see that here.
I called back to get logistics and schedules ... the 1st ph call was a very short one and after I hung up, I hadn't a clue how we would do this on a Tuesday afternoon.
I got through to Sr. C again and she said "That's a good question. We'll have to talk through that."
Sigh.
So *I* came up with-the idea to let him stay until Friday and not tell him right now. If we tell him now, he will not want to participate in any classes. Even an adult would behave that way.
If I take him out overnight, he will have a total meltdown; transitions are a huge problem for kids with-Asperger's.
She agreed.
I also told her that it bothered me that this was happening at this time; we all had a huge mtng last yr where husband and I signed the contract. I went back a few days later, and spoke alone with-Dr. JP and the resource dir, and was very fragile. I told them I didn't see the point in keeping difficult child there and it would make more sense to take him out in the summer so he could start a new school in an orderly fashion in the fall.
Sr. C repeated that this pattern was repeating itself.
I told her that was exactly why I called the 2nd, more private mtng, and I felt misled, because Sr. JP and the resource dir were adamant that difficult child could succeed there. And I left the mtng thinking that I was just worn out and overreacting.
I told Sr. C that I would never, ever have let difficult child re-enroll this fall if I had thought this would be such a problem. It would have made so much more sense to have let last yr be his last yr.
I also noted that since Aspies do not transition well, and that he has has numerous problems, that they should take Asperger's off of their web page.
She countered very quickly and curtly that "We have several other children here with-Asperger's and they do just fine."
I said "That's very unusual. I think it's a shame that the teachers and everyone put so much effort into this and you all don't seem equipped to really handle it."
She said she would bring it up with-the resource teacher.
I am expecting a call from the resource teacher at lunchtime.
I was awake most of last night with-a migraine (left over from shooting 503 photos in the hot sun, long story) and recovering from a cold. I am so exhausted, but I really have to go to the local public middle school and pick up paperwork.
He has had a cold and sinus infection. I got a dr's note.
He went to the nurse's ofc (see my other note here) but the nurse and I got him to stay.
Sr. C said she is seeing the same pattern they saw last yr and that difficult child was very interested in staying at this school and he was willing to put forth the effort. They don't see that here.
I called back to get logistics and schedules ... the 1st ph call was a very short one and after I hung up, I hadn't a clue how we would do this on a Tuesday afternoon.
I got through to Sr. C again and she said "That's a good question. We'll have to talk through that."
Sigh.
So *I* came up with-the idea to let him stay until Friday and not tell him right now. If we tell him now, he will not want to participate in any classes. Even an adult would behave that way.
If I take him out overnight, he will have a total meltdown; transitions are a huge problem for kids with-Asperger's.
She agreed.
I also told her that it bothered me that this was happening at this time; we all had a huge mtng last yr where husband and I signed the contract. I went back a few days later, and spoke alone with-Dr. JP and the resource dir, and was very fragile. I told them I didn't see the point in keeping difficult child there and it would make more sense to take him out in the summer so he could start a new school in an orderly fashion in the fall.
Sr. C repeated that this pattern was repeating itself.
I told her that was exactly why I called the 2nd, more private mtng, and I felt misled, because Sr. JP and the resource dir were adamant that difficult child could succeed there. And I left the mtng thinking that I was just worn out and overreacting.
I told Sr. C that I would never, ever have let difficult child re-enroll this fall if I had thought this would be such a problem. It would have made so much more sense to have let last yr be his last yr.
I also noted that since Aspies do not transition well, and that he has has numerous problems, that they should take Asperger's off of their web page.
She countered very quickly and curtly that "We have several other children here with-Asperger's and they do just fine."
I said "That's very unusual. I think it's a shame that the teachers and everyone put so much effort into this and you all don't seem equipped to really handle it."
She said she would bring it up with-the resource teacher.
I am expecting a call from the resource teacher at lunchtime.
I was awake most of last night with-a migraine (left over from shooting 503 photos in the hot sun, long story) and recovering from a cold. I am so exhausted, but I really have to go to the local public middle school and pick up paperwork.