difficult child was fired

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by Nancy, Jan 8, 2013.

  1. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    difficult child was fired again from her job, She hasn't held a job for more than 3 months. I am so depressed. It is impossible for her to follow rules and that's what makes this whole thing so hopeless.
  2. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    :hugs: Yeah... I wish I had an answer. Any idea what for?
  3. toughlovin

    toughlovin Guest

    Oh Nancy,

    I am so sorry!! And our difficult children are so darned alike. I think the crux of the issue for my difficult child is just what you said, he cannot and will not follow rules. This has ALWAYS been an issue for him so we had lots of issues with him before he discovered drugs.... and the substance abuse on top of it all well that is why he is in the situation he is in today. I have no answers except keep taking care of yourself, enjoy your easy child and your husband and remember your daughter has to find her own way.... and yes it is excrutiating for us to watch.

  4. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Sorry, Nancy. It's hard to figure how such a bright, cute young adult can not "see" what pattern in wrong for keeping employment. At least with difficult child#2 I get it. He can not multitask and IF he sees a coworker doing something "wrong" he assumes the role of mnager and corrects the behavior. Yikes. He just can't help himself. I'm guessing your difficult child is likely apt to show late or not show depending upon what's going on in her personal life. Either way...detach.Hugs DDD
  5. AmericanGirl

    AmericanGirl Guest

    Nancy, I am so sorry. Keep recalling - you didn't create it, you didn't cause it and you can't cure it.
  6. Calamity Jane

    Calamity Jane Well-Known Member

    Oh Nancy - that is so disheartening. That seemed like a really good job, and I remember you mentioned she had the oppty to make lots of tips. I also remember you said the boss ran a "no drama" kind of place, and either you get it or you get out. Not a great environment for a difficult child, I guess. Just awful. :sigh:
  7. Kathy813

    Kathy813 Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Aw, Nancy. What are we going do to with her?


  8. Hopeless

    Hopeless ....Hopeful Now

    Hugs nancy.
  9. rejectedmom

    rejectedmom New Member

    ((((Nancy)))) I am so sorry you have been disheartened yet again. My difficult child was the same also. They just can'[t seem to maintain even when they have the best intentions. Sigh -RM
  10. Signorina

    Signorina Guest

    {{{hugs}}. Feel your pain and your frustration. Fwiw, my difficult child is out of work too; claims he quit but who knows.

    i will never understand why our kids can't link their own behaviors to their eventual downfall... Ugh
  11. pinevalley

    pinevalley Member

    I'm sending cyber HUGS to you. Take care of yourself.
  12. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    I am so sorry Nancy.....mine has still not held a job for more than two days.... :(
  13. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm just sick about this. I suspect she either drank on the job, came in high, missed work or stole. The reason she gave was because she ate a mozzarella stick that the cook made for her. I highly doubt that.

    I didn't sleep all night, tossing and turning worrying about what she was going to do. I hate this. And the sad party is that even if she was sober, even if she never had another drink, she would still have a hard time keeping a job. She didn't get this way when she started using, she was always this way.
  14. recoveringenabler

    recoveringenabler Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm so sorry Nancy. I know how hard it is. Sending good thoughts for you to find peace................hugs............
  15. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    Oh, Nancy - I am sorry...
  16. dashcat

    dashcat Member

    When I saw this thread on the Forum Home, I hoped it wasn't you. I am so very sorry and I can relate. Many hugs,
  17. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Nancy, is difficult child worried? I doubt it. At least probably not as much as you are! I am sorry for this new stressor. It bites when we have to worry so much for them. Mine is on the verge, i learned this week, of being let go. I hope it was just a wake up call for her.
  18. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I don't know if she is worried or not. She doesn't seem to be but I don't know what goes on inside her head. Yes I am probably much more worried than she is. She doesn't seem to understand the long term ramifications of this. I would be in a panic.
  19. FlowerGarden

    FlowerGarden Active Member

    Hugs to you. I hope she "gets" the need for keeping a job real soon.
  20. rejectedmom

    rejectedmom New Member

    Oh Nancy I am so very sorry you are suffering and she is not even worried. (((HUGS))) -RM