I know I have not posted in a long time. I do read and keep up to date with you all though. Just too depressed to write. Check Watercooler about my issue. difficult child - Voice changing, growing...He knows EVERYTHING. Broken dishes, holes in the wall. ETC. We don't get along at all. Because of SCHOOL. He skipped a class. Grounded for a week. No phone, no computer no stepping out the door. The day he was to get ungrounded I got a call from school to come to school they have a serious issue. The police were there. I jump in the car not knowing what is going on. difficult child is basically a good kid. No drugs, no parties. Just has this mouth that won't stop. I like this small school because everyone knows him, they took the time to get to know him. He got along great. Then the police officer, the liason officer at the school was promoted and a new one came. difficult child will go after, push buttons whatever to any authority figure until they get to know each other. difficult child talks. non stop. Class clown. He pantsed someone. The liason officer saw that and called him out. difficult child's mouth started going. Liason officer called the police to have him arrested for obstruction. A teacher who difficult child knows very well stopped the arrest. difficult child was given a $235 ticket. And he goes to court on 12/16. His Birthday. It was a joke. My older son was pantsed many times. It was his friend too. both my husband and I, even my older son thinks they went too far. We can understand suspension, but court and a ticket??? Ofcourse we NEVER let difficult child know how we really feel. So, as his 15th birthday approaches he is terrified. He was suspended 3 days for that. He also drew inappropriate pictures on a paper and actually put his name on it. He handed it in to a substitute teacher. (the one paper he turns in). Had In school suspension for that. Not doing work. sleeping in class. All teachers say he should be an A student. If they test him orally he knows it. Getting him to write it down is a chore. Five minutes and he is either drawing pictures or sleeping. He has ADHD medication. Refused. Past experience, anything with Ritalin in gives him a horrible reaction. Adderall put him to sleep. This year was Vyvanse. He refused. Until....last Tuesday. He has been taking it every day this past week. Did drug tests. Blood work. No drugs. His gift of gab is his biggest asset. Gets to know teachers really well. Anyone. He talks to anyone. Very bright, knowledgable. But that gift of gab is his biggest problem too. Yells at me constantly. Makes me cry. Hates me. Hates living with me. I stopped giving him a ride to school. He now has to take the bus. I do nothing for him. There is SO much more going on. He is a very emotional, very passionate kid. Tries real hard not to show that. Said he was going to blow his head off. Shoot up heroin. Said that would solve all my problems. (school) He called a teacher and she came and picked him up. He stayed at her house for an evening and did homework. He is in counseling. School said it all started about 3 weeks ago. He was having a good year and WHAM. This is what happened (then ... 3 weeks ago) His Special Education teacher beat cancer. difficult child was pretty close to him. The cancer is back and he will not be returning to school. Not going to make it. My job has been outsourced. WE have a few months for the conversion. difficult child remembers when I lost my job of 18 years. We almost lost our house. We had nothing. There was a third thing and at this moment my mind is blank. But all three of these things happened at once. He doesn't talk about it. But I know he acts out. Now, back to my original question. What will happen at court? I was told it is not an arrest, just a citation. I told them (school) I don't have $235. They told me the judge will more than likely put it on the kid, not the parent. But they will ask about his behavior at home and school. And his grades. (he is failing all classes. Until he makes up tests and turns in work) What happens now? Will he have a record? And court is his 15th birthday. I told him he is going to jail. In the midst of an argument I blurted out the judge will look at his behavior, grades and put him in Juvy. difficult child actually TELLS me I don't know anything. He's 14. He lives it. He KNOWS everything. My mind is running in circles. Conference was last night.