So...1 pm is my discharge meeting at the psychiatric hospital to go over our discharge plan for M (and Lord help me, I have to bring my unruly 3 1/2 yr old along because I can't find anyone to watch him!). Here's the tentative plan and what I know about the situation and my concerns (I will find out more at 1 pm)... The Plan is: Discharge M early Thursday morning for me to pick him up and take him in my van to his new school (the one he is refusing to go to and has yet to attend). He will spend 1/2 day there and then will be allowed to spend the afternoon at his old school (which he insists is the only school he will return to) to ease the transition. He will be allowed to do the 1/2 day routine for approx. 1 week (there is only 1 week and 2 days left of school...then July 9th there is a Summer Program at his new school). If he rages/flips out/becomes unsafe, he is to be immediately re-admitted (this way, I am not left dealing with it at home with no support team or endangering my family, obviously). My concerns: M has already stated he is NOT going to the new school. I just don't see how we're even going to get him discharged out of the psychiatric hospital on Thursday. My only hope is that he'll SHUTDOWN rather than MELTDOWN and that we can physically just carry/drag him to school. I'm not convinced that will happen, but he hasn't raged in almost a week so *maybe* it's possible? But, let's say he MELTSDOWN and begins to rage. Does this mean he doesn't leave the psychiatric hospital? HE WINS. He told me last night he would rather live in the psychiatric hospital the rest of his life than go to the new school. If he makes it out of the psychiatric hospital and rages and does not get readmitted, but refuses to go to school, HE WINS. Again, the school refusal means he wins. And then I'd be left with no support and the inability to get him to school or psychiatrist. And if I readmit him, HE WINS again. I can't seem to think of a scenario where WE WIN. Unless the Celexa has really stabalized him (at 10 mg for 1 week?) where he won't rage and he'll just shutdown and let us take him. But then what happens on Friday when I have to get him to school by myself? And who's going to get my 3 yr old on his bus if I have to drive M to school in another town? AGH! So, if any of you have any experience, suggestions, advice to offer to help me bring to the table when I meet with the team today, I'd be forever grateful! I feel my anxiety rising and my thoughts starting to get scattered and I want to have a good discharge plan this time...because the last two times, we simply did not have enough support when we left and it S*CKED! Oh...and other than having something like DCF Voluntary Services, does anyone know of a way to get in-home help? I think if we had in-home help, that would be VERY helpful for situations like getting M to school and Dr's visits and such, don't you? But, dispite husband's readiness to sign up, I am petrified of DCF!