confuzzled
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i've pretty much HAD it.
until this year, we were "normal" parents, with "normal" discipline, "normal" rules, etc....
once she had her "break with reality" (which may or may not have actually occurred) and her alphabet soup diagnoses which may or may not be accurate, life has gone to h$ll in a handbasket. husband and i are walking on eggshells around her so as not to "upset her". we tried to relearn how to parent her--we were nice, then empathetic, then tolerant, then more flexible with overlooking the small stuff....courtesy of all of our "professional" involvement.
and now it feels like i dont just have a difficult child-- but that i have a spoiled brat on my hands.
she carried on in school over an assignment (i'm beyond embarrassed at this point too). fine. so she had to do it for homework. she carried on in hysterics for TWO HOURS. for NO reason--it was a simple, three paragraph letter to next years teacher...who she is, what she liked this year, and what she is looking forward to next year. this was not hard. this was a literal 10 minute assignment. the teacher even gave her a graphic organizer. and yet, she chose to act like a 2 year old.
so she's majorly punished. i dont CARE what the prof's say at this point...i'm sick of hearing she "cant control it" or she "cant do X" (when she was more than capable for the last 10 years of her life)...
i completely lost it. and i'm no longer sorry. i've never hit my kids, but so help me, i almost started today. i had to leave the room. i NEVER lose control--but thats how far this year has pushed me. and i'm quickly out of patience and ideas with the situation. my own PTSD/Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) is so off the charts that i'm not even sure how i function anymore. and i really see no end in sight to this nonsense...although i'm liking the mattress only in a room idea more by the second.
pass the cheese--my w(h)ine needs a snack.
until this year, we were "normal" parents, with "normal" discipline, "normal" rules, etc....
once she had her "break with reality" (which may or may not have actually occurred) and her alphabet soup diagnoses which may or may not be accurate, life has gone to h$ll in a handbasket. husband and i are walking on eggshells around her so as not to "upset her". we tried to relearn how to parent her--we were nice, then empathetic, then tolerant, then more flexible with overlooking the small stuff....courtesy of all of our "professional" involvement.
and now it feels like i dont just have a difficult child-- but that i have a spoiled brat on my hands.
she carried on in school over an assignment (i'm beyond embarrassed at this point too). fine. so she had to do it for homework. she carried on in hysterics for TWO HOURS. for NO reason--it was a simple, three paragraph letter to next years teacher...who she is, what she liked this year, and what she is looking forward to next year. this was not hard. this was a literal 10 minute assignment. the teacher even gave her a graphic organizer. and yet, she chose to act like a 2 year old.
so she's majorly punished. i dont CARE what the prof's say at this point...i'm sick of hearing she "cant control it" or she "cant do X" (when she was more than capable for the last 10 years of her life)...
i completely lost it. and i'm no longer sorry. i've never hit my kids, but so help me, i almost started today. i had to leave the room. i NEVER lose control--but thats how far this year has pushed me. and i'm quickly out of patience and ideas with the situation. my own PTSD/Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) is so off the charts that i'm not even sure how i function anymore. and i really see no end in sight to this nonsense...although i'm liking the mattress only in a room idea more by the second.
pass the cheese--my w(h)ine needs a snack.