I am not sure if I posted in the right forum, please forgive me if I didn't. So...do you all know anyone who is married to a difficult child....a difficult child who never changed since childhood and still act's completely in difficult child ways, but some how manages to hold down a job and financially take care of his/her family without any help? I know someone, who is 30 years old, his wife and three kids (1st kid from a previous relationship). He is out of control. Makes his wife miserable. Acts like a gift from god in so many ways in all aspects. I just don't know how a bully like him has made it this far in life without ever being arrested or made to be held accountable for his actions. All things difficult child has done: Very huge pot dealer since 16 years old. Has moved more pot in the last 17 years than a drug lord in Mexico. (has never been caught once by the cops, not once) Got into numerous fights and have beaten people pretty badly, some were sent to the hospital, god knows what else he has done. He also has roughed up a few females (that were not his girlfriends) Also, It would't surprise me if he shot or stabbed someone before. (never got arrested, not once) Confessed to me that he and his friend robbed a convenient store. (never got caught) Has stolen numerous things from numerous people and places, done drugs (although far from a drug addict, but is a pot head big time). Never arrested not once. He is very arrogant, doesn't care what you or I think and you better stay out of his way. He will shake you to the core no matter who you are. He beats his wife pretty bad, makes her do everything, isolates her and treats her just so badly. He plays massive mind games with her that remind me of what kids do with their parents. (has never been held accountable) The cops seem to like him. People like him because he doesn't show his true self at first. But somehow he has managed to get his own place of business, be a very involved father to all three of his kids. He is not a present father but he is not absent either. He does take care of them, he makes them get straight A's. They are heavily involved in mixed martial arts (excelling) and all other sports. However, they do see the bad side of him often. Everything is on his time, his kids fight very hard to keep up with his schedule. His over all demenour just is very maddening. He walks and talks with attitude from the minute he wakes up. He comes in the room, all attention is on him, he don't care what you're doing. When he decides to leave, he just gets up and go's without explaining to anyone, walks real fast and out the door. Boss's his wife around all day long. And of course difficult child has done numerous things I can not even list. My point is, it's very, very hard to see this bully get away with everything while everyone else is made, especially by his age, to pay some sort of consequence. He is THIRTY years old and has never faced the law or natural consequence of his actions. It befuddles me and infuriates me to no end , for this person is close in my life. He gets away with everything and the more he gets away with it, the more it get's worse and worse. What is your take on this? Again, questions are, can difficult child last all the way through adult hood? Do you know anyone like I have described? If you do, I am so sorry. Thank you for anyone who has any input on this.