Does Peaceful Parenting Mean Letting Kids Do What They Want? - Psychology Today Often, parents get confused about peaceful parenting. They think that if they stop punishing, their child will do whatever he wants. But that assumes there are only two choices -- being permissive or being punitive. What about holding to your expectations while at the same time offering your child understanding, and support to meet your expectations? Let's say you tell your child that it's time for bed, and she ignores you or says "No!" What are your choices?