What are the consequences for negative behavior at school for a child who has adhd, oppositional defiant disorder and depression and low self esteem? What should be the consequence for not staying on task? forgetting materials? being disrespectful towards teachers? Please offer suggestions. School is not helping me much. They say he has to be punished for these violations. I feel it is wrong to punish for something that is because of his disability but don't know how to fix it. Can anyone help me here. You won't step on my toes by giving me your opinion. If he needs intense therapy to learn social, problem solving, and anger management skills how do I get them to provide these skills?