Dr. Douglas Riley
New Member
It has been a long time since I have visited the board. Those of you who remember me will probably assoicate me with my book, The Defiant Child. I am writing let everyone know that this past August my latest book, What Your Explosive Child Is Trying To Tell You, was published by Houghton Mifflin. I am happy to announce that it has been awarded a gold medal by the Mom's Choice awards for 2009 in the parenting category.
The reason I wrote the book is this: There is literally an explosion of explosive behavior in children in the three to ten years old age range. However, there has been nothing written about the actual underlying causes of explosive behavior, and many parents are rightfully confused on the differences between explosive behavior and ODD.
In order to help explosive children, you first have to understand that there are multiple, hidden causes of explosive behavior, each of which has to have its own specific treatment. There is no generic, one size fits all treatment that will result in any lasting change.
For example, many of the young children I see at my office explode because they are unusually sensitive to unexpected changes in their schedule, unexpected transitions, or changes in what they thought was going to happen. We all have a mental roadmap, and for some children it is carved in stone. When what they thought was going to happen does not happen, there is a massive eruption of anger and outrage.
I see a significant number of children who explode due to undiagnosed food sensitivities. In particular for little children, the sensitivities are often to milk, wheat, corn, high fructose corn syrup, or food colorings. One mother I know refers to juice boxes as "liquid crazy." If your child has a sandpaper rash on his or her wrist, or excema, try taking them off of milk for a week to see if it helps. It will in a surprising number of cases.
There are still other reasons: Some children have sensory integration issues that leave them cranky if their clothes don't feel right, or they get set off by certain food textures or smells. For some of the children in the 10, 11, and 12 range, explosive behavior is a sign of depression. Perfectionistic children will explode when they can't get things just right. The anxious child who explodes because she can't get in your bed with you at night invariable is fearful of being harmed, or of you being harmed, at night. Some children explode at school because of the frustration of undiagnosed learning disabilities. Other kids explode at school during the day because of undiagnosed sleep difficulties and airway problems.
As you can see, each of the issues I noted above can be treated. But, the treatment for each is quite specific.
I hope that the new book will prove useful to the parents on this forum. By now, most public libraries will have it. It is also available through the typical commercial store and web outlets. There is also a link to a lengthy podcast interview with me on explosive children on my website, drdouglasriley.com.
This site has come miles and miles since it was originally founded by momma bear. I will check back in on occasion and will attempt to answer questions about explosive children.
Best regards, Doug Riley
The reason I wrote the book is this: There is literally an explosion of explosive behavior in children in the three to ten years old age range. However, there has been nothing written about the actual underlying causes of explosive behavior, and many parents are rightfully confused on the differences between explosive behavior and ODD.
In order to help explosive children, you first have to understand that there are multiple, hidden causes of explosive behavior, each of which has to have its own specific treatment. There is no generic, one size fits all treatment that will result in any lasting change.
For example, many of the young children I see at my office explode because they are unusually sensitive to unexpected changes in their schedule, unexpected transitions, or changes in what they thought was going to happen. We all have a mental roadmap, and for some children it is carved in stone. When what they thought was going to happen does not happen, there is a massive eruption of anger and outrage.
I see a significant number of children who explode due to undiagnosed food sensitivities. In particular for little children, the sensitivities are often to milk, wheat, corn, high fructose corn syrup, or food colorings. One mother I know refers to juice boxes as "liquid crazy." If your child has a sandpaper rash on his or her wrist, or excema, try taking them off of milk for a week to see if it helps. It will in a surprising number of cases.
There are still other reasons: Some children have sensory integration issues that leave them cranky if their clothes don't feel right, or they get set off by certain food textures or smells. For some of the children in the 10, 11, and 12 range, explosive behavior is a sign of depression. Perfectionistic children will explode when they can't get things just right. The anxious child who explodes because she can't get in your bed with you at night invariable is fearful of being harmed, or of you being harmed, at night. Some children explode at school because of the frustration of undiagnosed learning disabilities. Other kids explode at school during the day because of undiagnosed sleep difficulties and airway problems.
As you can see, each of the issues I noted above can be treated. But, the treatment for each is quite specific.
I hope that the new book will prove useful to the parents on this forum. By now, most public libraries will have it. It is also available through the typical commercial store and web outlets. There is also a link to a lengthy podcast interview with me on explosive children on my website, drdouglasriley.com.
This site has come miles and miles since it was originally founded by momma bear. I will check back in on occasion and will attempt to answer questions about explosive children.
Best regards, Doug Riley