My husbands family has this attitude that you musn't overprotect your children....You know the type of families where the kids must just string along and defend for themselves....They will be fine.....this is how live is attitude....So my brother in law youngest son is 10 yrs old now....and according to me he has definitly Aspergers or even lower on the spectrum! My mother in law is looking after their 2 boys now while they are having a trip overseas....My husbands brothers dont believe in taking kids with on nice, expensive holidays....no, just dump them with granny, even when they are only 1 week old! So mother in law thought it to be a good idea to let the nephews spend some time together while their parents are away...GREAT idea...my son is having a blast! BUT...we then planned for this brother in law son, the Aspie according to me, to come and have a sleep over at our home.....mother in law then went and planned 2 other sleepovers for this child for the 2 evenings before the sleepover with my son....They just dont even think about the sensory effect this might have on this child....Anyway.....we went to picture him up....I ask, does he have his clothing, exct? So my mother in law says, yes, he quickly packed for himself emphesizing the fact that kids must learn to be independent! Ouch, I felt the sting in that one!!! So I ask her, does he have any medications I need to take with...Oh yes he does!!!!?????? she would have forgotten about this! So it turns out he is on medications for ADD....she gives it at night....I am like thinking....shouldn't he be taking it in the mornings!!!?? I ask if he takes antihistamins, because I know he is allergic ...Oh yes he does but its finish!!!! OMW!!!! So when we got home and they need to bath, I help him unpack his little bag with 'clothes'......There I find 2 adult daipers!!!! The poor child was so very embarressed!!!! He quickly put it back!!!!OMW....how can NOBODY tell me this!!!!!!This poor child was trying to avoid bathing with my son, avoiding going to the loo...All so my son wouldn't see he wears evening diapers! If they informed me I would have handled the situation differently and try to avoid him this embarressment! This poor child then said he forgot to pack clothing for the next day...he forgot clean undies....he didnt bring any toothbrush....no warm socks or something!!!!! When I shared my sons health issues with this childs mom a few months ago...she said nothing...When I asked her if they ever took this child for assessments...she said no....he is just little different....no need for assessments with psychiatric. How on earth can people be so IGNORANT!!!????Or are we just not suppose to share this kind of info!? Maybe we make to much of our kids problems? Maybe this is the way its suppose to be.....just go with the flow and take all this things in our stride....Never mind a childs self esteem....They will grow up and be just fine!!!!?????? So what if I didnt know about the diapers, so what if he doesnt have warm clothes, forgot undies....He survived and a week from now its all forgotten? Right? I know I need to keep my mouth shut...but I am so wanting to ask my mother in law why she didnt tell me about the diapers!!!???