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How so very sad, specifically for difficult child 2. I am so sorry.
However, you are absolutely doing ALL of the right things. I am so encouraged by your strength, you are amazing.
Remain true to your gut, and let difficult child 2 know that Daddy is very, very sick right now. He cannot see anyone, not even him, because he is so sick. Get him in counseling if possible, and definitely take him to an al-anon meeting. There is also teen-anon, that might help difficult child.
Hang in there............sending big hugs.
PS, can you get the house transferred into your name now?