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easy child broke my heart this weekend should I still go so out of my way and make sacrificies to do for her now that her fiance is more important.
It was time to move easy child back to her college town for her to continue her education to be become a veternarian. She was suppose to finish her pre vet stuff this year but last semester she and her boyfriend broke up was the same one that my mom died and the professor would not let her take her test so she failed two classes that she has to make up. The original deal was that they could not get married until she finish prevet but things got messed up anyway
difficult child called to make sure that he was still going because he tries so hard to repair the relationship with easy child and being there to help since he knows husband can't do much so difficult child is trying really hard to repair two relationships with this gester of help that he has now made several times in a row. packing her to go and come home . As you may remember last year I was happy because easy child actually thanked all of us via text message including difficult child : ) This year she and her fiance were total jerks --difficult child took time off work -working 3 part time jobs : ) to make this trip---yes he smokes. He was not around when we were loading things to make the trip -our oldest son was( good thing--her fiance is much older but worthless when it comes to things like this)
We got to our friends house where we stay -they live in her college town--had a nice visit with ALL of us and them --no drama.
the next morning they got up to go start moving things from storage to the moving trailer--when difficult child went out he lit a cigarette and easy child lost it --yelling at him that she doens't want her clothes smelling that that "****" --so he said ok and put it out then her fiance told him to just nevermind and go back in the house that he could do it. (There were only a couple of boxes in this storage) so difficult child did -he was hurt and upset but just came in to complain to me about it.
we left there and went to her apartment( which is a whole other story of why she is not in the dorm) and the very first thing she tells us is that we can't dirty the carpets so we will have to take everything up to the door and then once everything is there we will all take off our shoes to finish carrying everything upstairs to the apartment --yes upstairs. husband and I just looked at eachother and went OOOOOKKKKKK. so we were taking things up and then I decided to stay in the apartment and start unloading because in the past I have always cleaned the whole area before I start unloading and putting her room together. difficult child at one point started to bring things in from downstairs and was respectful her rule to remove his shoes. He dragged up the box spring and she started freaking out -yelling at him not to knock anything over or put holes in the walls --next he brought up the mattress--same attitude from easy child--so he brought up the bed frame and she lost it yelling at him that if he puts a whole in the wall he will have to pay--ok so yes she is paying the rent with her school money but I am the one that signed the lease that if she doesn't pay or there is damage to the property I am the one held responsible--(oh by the way I was TOLD to sign the lease NOT ASKED) but I did without any comments or complaints. It got him very excited when SHE started yelling at him and yes he did bump the wall -no damage and she ran off yelling at him. He sat there for a minute starting to put the bed together and then looked at me and said "you know what they can do it themselves" and got up and left. I was putting the bathroom together since that is where she TOLD me to get started, when she came and yelling AT me-"oh so he got mad at left" so I told her to shut up. She was still yelling at me saying I should never have brought him to help-I told her that he was the one that volunteered so she said that she didn't want his help. I told her that with her hateful attitude that one day she was going to need help and that there was not going to be anybody there to help her and she would pay to her attitude. She screamed at me that she already paid when she was a kid that difficult child was mean to her and tried to kill her. I told her that was an exageration and she yelled at me saying that I NEEDED to be respectful to her and I yelled back telling her that I am the parent and she is the one that needs to be respectful to me. She turned around and told me that IF I didn't like it that I could JUST LEAVE.-----SO I grabbed my purse and said ok I will and then I turned and looked and her with tears in my eyes and told her that SOMEDAY she will regret that she kicked me out of her home. (My little sister did that to my mom about 12 years ago and my mom never went back and at my moms funeral she was crying saying that she never meant it that way--but it's too late now isn't it) As I was walking down the stairs she holdered at me so now your going to act like a child and I said NO I am doing what you asked and am leaving. I cried and cried but husband and difficult child have no heart either as we were driving away I was getting yelled at by them for me not to take it out on them --but i want on thinking and reliving it outloud to make it REAL to myself which started a whole other drama.
easy child and fiance showed back up over at our friends house and hung out the rest of the weekend-which means to me that her fiance left it up to her alone to put her apartment together --desks -shelves and everything else and she had to make other arrangements to pick up the things in her other storage but all of that could have been fixed IF she had apoligized to me and difficult child.
When we left the following day she barely hugged me ,shrugged her shoulders at difficult child BUT husband got a big hug and I LOVE YOU DADDY. ugh he can't lift anything--never even saw the inside of the apartment ------------------------oh and then there is all the drama with husband's mom since our oldest daughter has now left her live in baby daddy and they try to make me feel guilty that she never got her braces off that I paid for --well if you never show up to appointment's and when you to it is an hour late the doctor can't do his job.
so to sum it up --easy child broke my heart and hurt difficult child---her fiance is worthless---oldest daughter now trying to cause more family drama on husband side--difficult child hurt by easy child but mad at me for trying to FIX it for him because HE is a man(don't you know) and husband is being as a** to ME for ruining the weekend,-----WHAT?????
oh a HUGE HUGE side note we finally got to spend quality time with our precious grandaughter who we are still not sure is being taken care of properly but at least our oldest is out of a bad situation and can start some kind of life for the two of them. I told her shopping and spent so much money --husband and I won't have food this month but our baby looks great.
What do you think? My heart is broken --
It was time to move easy child back to her college town for her to continue her education to be become a veternarian. She was suppose to finish her pre vet stuff this year but last semester she and her boyfriend broke up was the same one that my mom died and the professor would not let her take her test so she failed two classes that she has to make up. The original deal was that they could not get married until she finish prevet but things got messed up anyway
difficult child called to make sure that he was still going because he tries so hard to repair the relationship with easy child and being there to help since he knows husband can't do much so difficult child is trying really hard to repair two relationships with this gester of help that he has now made several times in a row. packing her to go and come home . As you may remember last year I was happy because easy child actually thanked all of us via text message including difficult child : ) This year she and her fiance were total jerks --difficult child took time off work -working 3 part time jobs : ) to make this trip---yes he smokes. He was not around when we were loading things to make the trip -our oldest son was( good thing--her fiance is much older but worthless when it comes to things like this)
We got to our friends house where we stay -they live in her college town--had a nice visit with ALL of us and them --no drama.
the next morning they got up to go start moving things from storage to the moving trailer--when difficult child went out he lit a cigarette and easy child lost it --yelling at him that she doens't want her clothes smelling that that "****" --so he said ok and put it out then her fiance told him to just nevermind and go back in the house that he could do it. (There were only a couple of boxes in this storage) so difficult child did -he was hurt and upset but just came in to complain to me about it.
we left there and went to her apartment( which is a whole other story of why she is not in the dorm) and the very first thing she tells us is that we can't dirty the carpets so we will have to take everything up to the door and then once everything is there we will all take off our shoes to finish carrying everything upstairs to the apartment --yes upstairs. husband and I just looked at eachother and went OOOOOKKKKKK. so we were taking things up and then I decided to stay in the apartment and start unloading because in the past I have always cleaned the whole area before I start unloading and putting her room together. difficult child at one point started to bring things in from downstairs and was respectful her rule to remove his shoes. He dragged up the box spring and she started freaking out -yelling at him not to knock anything over or put holes in the walls --next he brought up the mattress--same attitude from easy child--so he brought up the bed frame and she lost it yelling at him that if he puts a whole in the wall he will have to pay--ok so yes she is paying the rent with her school money but I am the one that signed the lease that if she doesn't pay or there is damage to the property I am the one held responsible--(oh by the way I was TOLD to sign the lease NOT ASKED) but I did without any comments or complaints. It got him very excited when SHE started yelling at him and yes he did bump the wall -no damage and she ran off yelling at him. He sat there for a minute starting to put the bed together and then looked at me and said "you know what they can do it themselves" and got up and left. I was putting the bathroom together since that is where she TOLD me to get started, when she came and yelling AT me-"oh so he got mad at left" so I told her to shut up. She was still yelling at me saying I should never have brought him to help-I told her that he was the one that volunteered so she said that she didn't want his help. I told her that with her hateful attitude that one day she was going to need help and that there was not going to be anybody there to help her and she would pay to her attitude. She screamed at me that she already paid when she was a kid that difficult child was mean to her and tried to kill her. I told her that was an exageration and she yelled at me saying that I NEEDED to be respectful to her and I yelled back telling her that I am the parent and she is the one that needs to be respectful to me. She turned around and told me that IF I didn't like it that I could JUST LEAVE.-----SO I grabbed my purse and said ok I will and then I turned and looked and her with tears in my eyes and told her that SOMEDAY she will regret that she kicked me out of her home. (My little sister did that to my mom about 12 years ago and my mom never went back and at my moms funeral she was crying saying that she never meant it that way--but it's too late now isn't it) As I was walking down the stairs she holdered at me so now your going to act like a child and I said NO I am doing what you asked and am leaving. I cried and cried but husband and difficult child have no heart either as we were driving away I was getting yelled at by them for me not to take it out on them --but i want on thinking and reliving it outloud to make it REAL to myself which started a whole other drama.
easy child and fiance showed back up over at our friends house and hung out the rest of the weekend-which means to me that her fiance left it up to her alone to put her apartment together --desks -shelves and everything else and she had to make other arrangements to pick up the things in her other storage but all of that could have been fixed IF she had apoligized to me and difficult child.
When we left the following day she barely hugged me ,shrugged her shoulders at difficult child BUT husband got a big hug and I LOVE YOU DADDY. ugh he can't lift anything--never even saw the inside of the apartment ------------------------oh and then there is all the drama with husband's mom since our oldest daughter has now left her live in baby daddy and they try to make me feel guilty that she never got her braces off that I paid for --well if you never show up to appointment's and when you to it is an hour late the doctor can't do his job.
so to sum it up --easy child broke my heart and hurt difficult child---her fiance is worthless---oldest daughter now trying to cause more family drama on husband side--difficult child hurt by easy child but mad at me for trying to FIX it for him because HE is a man(don't you know) and husband is being as a** to ME for ruining the weekend,-----WHAT?????
oh a HUGE HUGE side note we finally got to spend quality time with our precious grandaughter who we are still not sure is being taken care of properly but at least our oldest is out of a bad situation and can start some kind of life for the two of them. I told her shopping and spent so much money --husband and I won't have food this month but our baby looks great.
What do you think? My heart is broken --
