My ten year old has a lot of friends. The problem is, they turn on one another (my daughter doesn't participate in this--she's the one who is always defending her friends who turn on her). Last night a boy who is a very good "friend" of hers (and who has turned on her I don't know how many times) spread an internet rumor that she said a very bad word. This may seem small, but this is a tiny community and the rumor is taking off like wildfire with one of her other close friends (a girl who has a mouth like a truck driver, I'm told) said she believes him. My daughter was in tears, asked if she could be homeschooled, said she hates everyone because everyone is mean. We sat down and tried to talk about the two girls who aren't mean (literally there are only about two other girls who don't backstab). But they already have their own group of friends who backstab them...lol. I mean, it would be funny if the girls didn't hurt so much. We picked up my daughter's one friend who is always nice to her and drove them both to school this morning, but I'm sooooooooo nervous. My daughter was in such a poor frame of mind today, and I'm worried about what all this backbiting will do to her. I know what it did to my first daughter--she got involved in drugs to be "cool." I don't think this child will go that route, but I don't want her to be miserable either. She's a really sweet girl, one who sticks up for the child in her grade who has Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified. While others make fun of him and refuse to invite him to parties and call him "bad" and "weird" she goes out of her way to be good to him, to pick him as a lab partner, to make sure he goes to her party. Yet she can put on a tough exterior. What have you told your girls (or boys) when their group of friends turns on them, and what worked? I'm really at a loss here as I have nothing to look back upon. I hated cliques and refused to hang out with them so this didn't happen to me. Nothing I said seemed to make her feel better until I got her to call her one friend who is always nice to her. I wish she'd just hang around with this one girl and forget the others, but this girl is friends with the same crowd as she is.