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flutterbee
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Our kids require a lot more than your typical kid: a lot more understanding, a lot more hand-holding, and A LOT more patience.
We line up the tdocs, the psychiatrists, and the neuropsychs. We battle with the schools to implement an effective IEP. We employ all the therapeutic interventions, behavior mods, and medications and we read all the right books. Then, one night, you lie awake wondering if you've just been trying to put a square peg in a round hole for the past 12 years.
Some days, just everyday life is a struggle for our kids. Then we expect them to be productive on top of that. We expect them to perform at school, at home and socially. My daughter goes through more angst and turmoil in a 5 day school week in just going to school, then the typical kid goes through in a year. And she does this every day, every week, every month. So when my daughter comes to me and she just can't do it one more day, I can't make her. I watch her muster all her resources every morning when she gets out of the car. I watch her swallow her tears, put her head up high and march into the building. And I *know* how hard it is for her.
I know that the line between helping, coddling and hindering is sometimes fine. But, she isn't like every other kid. So, then, I wonder...am I setting her up for failure to expect the same things out of her? These other kids don't struggle everyday of their life. She does.
Instead of trying to mold her into everyone else's (mine included) expectations, I need to find a way for her to work with her uniqueness. I need to give her a chance at success and give her something to build on.
Ok...can you tell why I didn't sleep last night? :wink:
We line up the tdocs, the psychiatrists, and the neuropsychs. We battle with the schools to implement an effective IEP. We employ all the therapeutic interventions, behavior mods, and medications and we read all the right books. Then, one night, you lie awake wondering if you've just been trying to put a square peg in a round hole for the past 12 years.
Some days, just everyday life is a struggle for our kids. Then we expect them to be productive on top of that. We expect them to perform at school, at home and socially. My daughter goes through more angst and turmoil in a 5 day school week in just going to school, then the typical kid goes through in a year. And she does this every day, every week, every month. So when my daughter comes to me and she just can't do it one more day, I can't make her. I watch her muster all her resources every morning when she gets out of the car. I watch her swallow her tears, put her head up high and march into the building. And I *know* how hard it is for her.
I know that the line between helping, coddling and hindering is sometimes fine. But, she isn't like every other kid. So, then, I wonder...am I setting her up for failure to expect the same things out of her? These other kids don't struggle everyday of their life. She does.
Instead of trying to mold her into everyone else's (mine included) expectations, I need to find a way for her to work with her uniqueness. I need to give her a chance at success and give her something to build on.
Ok...can you tell why I didn't sleep last night? :wink: