This is the step dad who grandson has repeatedly said he was afraid of who always screams at him and slapped grandson across the face. Today son had to do an exchange and this stepdad who I will call Mac was there in car alone, waiting to pick up little J. My son saw him and hugged J then sent J out of his car to go to Mac. Son was backing his car out of gas station parking lot. Mac screeched his car to chase him and son thought maybe J had forgotten something in his car so he stopped. Mac yanked J out of car and marched them over to son's car motionong aggressively for son to roll down his window.Son did. It is 10 degrees there but J was only going from one warm car to another and ex has coats at her house. J was wearing a thin but very warm thermocoat. Mac, who is not bright, started yelling nonstop using the contant F bomb about how stupid son was to put a thin coat on J, how stupid he is, and said "I should come in there and kick your f***"g ass!" All this was in front of J who is sobbing hysterically and begging him to stop to which Mac snarled "You shut up!" My son does not fight and tried to intercede and calm him down, but Mac never gave him room to say a word until Son finally winked at son, said"I love you" and drove away with son still begging Mac to be quiet please. Son felt sick leaving J. He wasn't sure he had any right to keep him. It is ex's time with him and he was afraid not to let him go. They are in litigation so he is afraid he is damned if he does or doesn't. At least in court. Son called me shaking, furious, and reading me the letter he composed to his lawyer and the parental coordinator both who won't be in until Tues. Now son is so shocked, he is going to also call Parental Coordinator and lawyer too and normally he is afraid to call. He can't call ex. Ex won't answer the phone or let him talk to J and so far this calling issue has been punted by the Judges so Son has no contact with Son when he is with ex and ex won't allowbJ to call him. I am puzzled that the Judges never rule on this, but they have not. So he can only worry about J. A little backdate info update: Son's Lawyer called easy child recently. They are personal friends. I think that helps. So easy child called son and said,"I understand the problem more now" and was very nice to son and told him ex's quest to put J. In a school near her and take him out of his current school wont happen. She also ruled in favor of son on forcing activities...activities have to only be on the particilur parent's time and can't infringe on the other one's time. That mattered a lot to son so both were major wins for him. Especially school. He only went to court because ex had enrolled him in the school close to her and J desperately wants to stay at his school, where he is familiar and doing well. In Wizard emails, ex tried to brush off Mac's atrocious behavior and go after the coat, but son wrote back that this was not about the coat but about Mac's appalling threatening behavior in front of their son. Of course he tested me with all he wrote before sending anything. I think he did a great job. He can be a wuss, but he is in protective father mode now. So that is the latest. Son will be asking what can be done about Mac if anything. J has been very afraid of him and J's relationship for a long time and his mother won't protect J against Mac. As a helpless Grandma I just want to bawl but I am angry too. .